Thursday, December 31, 2015

Anti-Gay Bakers Read Mean Tweets and Mean Tweet Fail; The Guys of Coitus Magazine; Eddie Redmayne As Trans Ally

Anti-Gay Bakers Read Mean Tweets

I'm not even sure I know what to say about this. I do think I'm quite possibly the ONLY gay blogger who isn't using bad sarcasm to put my own spin on this story and using it to my own advantage. So I'll remain totally objective this time and I hope I'll present this story to you with an unbiased post.

The bakers who were fined six figures for refusing to make a wedding cake for a same sex couple did a video where they read a few of the vicious comments they've received on social media from the LGBT community.

I can't give you a direct excerpt from anyone because they are all so biased. And the sarcasm is so poorly executed.

You can view the video here. 

The comments are interesting.

Side note: Speaking in general, last night I came across a youtube video that a mainstream romance author and her husband did...with this mean tweet theme. They sat at their dining room table commenting on mean Facebook comments and tweets people had left for the woman author on social media and it really came off looking big time dumb. I've never read her books, and she might write good romances, but she's not clever enough or funny enough to pull off the kind of sarcasm you need when replying to nasty comments on social media. Actually, it comes off looking more like big time author butthurt. So if anyone's thinking about doing something "cute" like this, you may want to rethink that a few times. You might wind up proving the nasty comments right instead of wrong :) 


The Guys of Coitus Magazine

This reminds me of a book review I read a few years ago. A popular romance book review blog that's known for slamming authentic books written by gay men gave a five star review to a gay romance book written by a woman, and in that book she referred to the two gay male characters as sharing "coitus." ...Because they were so deeply in love. The straight women readers loved it, and gay men were left wondering WTF is coitus? Do you fry it up in a pan with brown sugar and butter?

As a gay man, that would never even occur to me. What gay men, ever, shared "coitus?" But then again, I was writing gay fiction for years for gay publishers before I started writing m/m romance and straight people started telling me I was doing it all wrong...even though I'm gay.

Coitus is basically sexual intercourse...the "union of male and female genitalia." At least that's how it's defined in the places where I've looked it up. In other words, I have never known two gay men who shared "coitus." At least not in the traditional sense, and without a huge dose of vicious sarcasm.

In any event, it seems there's a magazine called "Coitus" and they have photos of hot men. That's all I know.

Beards, lumberjacks and scruff have been having something of a moment in 2015, but let’s not forget about the slender, youthful lads that never seem to stop coming of age.

You can check them out here. And here's a link to the about page of Coitus Magazine.

One person in the comments seems as confused as I am about the word "coitus."

Eddie Redmayne As Trans Ally

I'm dying to see The Danish Girl, starring Eddie Redmayne, where he plays a trans person. Aside from that, he recently made a statement where he says he hopes to become an ally to the trans community.

It’s been 15 years in the making and has come out at time when there has been such a shift in these issues coming to the mainstream.

The story is so beautiful and the people from the trans community I met in preparing for the part were incredibly generous. It has been a privilege and, while not in any way talking for the community, I’m trying to learn to be an ally.”

You can check that out here.

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Tuesday, December 29, 2015

Glee's Mark Salling and Child Porn; The PC Police and Gay Passwords; Chelsea Manning Throws Shade At Caitlyn Jenner

Glee's Mark Salling and Child Porn

I never watched Glee so I don't know who Mark Salling is, however, this has been making news all week. I've seen him but never paid much attention.

Glee actor Mark Salling has been arrested for child pornography, TMZ reports.
The site reports that the LAPD’s Internet Crimes Against Children Task Force obtained a search warrant for his Sunland home on Tuesday (December 29) and found hundreds of images on the 33-year-old actor’s computer.


MORE: Glee’s Mark Salling Arrested for Child Pornography | Mark Salling : Just Jared | http://www.justjared.com/2015/12/29/mark-salling-arrested-for-child-pornography/?trackback=tsmclip

There's more about a previous arrest. You can read it all here. 

Here's another update. 


The PC Police and Gay Passwords

There is a romance author...not a m/m romance author; this one is mainstream romance...who posts the most PC nonsense on Twitter I have ever seen. She has this demure Cheshire cat Avi, she seems to know EVERYTHING, and she's usually protected by a bunch of other minion PC officers. If you dare to even joke about anything they go on the attack faster than you can tweet about kittens. 

So this article made me smile. It's about how "offended" PC straight people get when they see gay passwords that aren't PC enough.

But the headache persists for one UK woman, who was outraged when she arrived at her elderly mother’s house for Christmas and discovered Virgin Media had set her up with an easier-to-remember, albeit potentially-offensive, password.

“Completely disgusted that my elderly mother has her Virgin wifi installed with THIS as her password?!” the woman tweeted with a photo of the password “gayfkers.”

Seems more profane than offensive to us, but it still might be a bit much for dear old gran.

You can read the rest here. The opinions vary, but many seem to think the reaction was exaggerated. 
I have been through this time and again with the PC police with regard to my own books...and I'M GAY.

Chelsea Manning Throws Shade At Caitlyn Jenner

I have a feeling Chelsea Manning is doing the clickbait thing here...trying to get much needed attention. I could be wrong, but only time will tell. The fact is that Caitlyn Jenner is a hot commodity right now and she gets attention without even trying very hard. 

In a tweet dated December 25, the transgender prisoner went on a tirade about Caitlyn Jenner, writing, “In 2015 @Caitlyn_Jenner ws the grinch who stole (& sold out) the trans movement. All I want 4 Xmas is Universal Trans Lib. #ChristmasEve2015”:

You can read more here about Manning and prison. There's also a mention of Britt Midler's nasty tweet about Caitlyn.  I didn't even know Britt was going after Jenner. She should stick to singing Christmas songs.



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Porn Star Mario Romo Arrested; Alleged Hate Beating On Christmas; Indiana Gay Bar To Close

Porn Star Mario Romo Arrested

It looks as if another male porn star is going through difficult times. This one could be right out of a Tennessee Williams play.

Mario Romo, who got his start in the adult film industry as Sean Cody‘s “Francisco” in 2010 (and whose legal name is David Meza), has been indicted on multiple charges and stands accused of tricking a wealthy Texas man into a relationship, convincing him to name Meza as his legal heir, then murdering him.

In case you think this is unique, think again. I've been hearing these stories in the gay community for years. Of course there's always an exception to the rule, but generally speaking whenever you see a twenty-something year old gay guy with a sixty, seventy, or eighty year old, you can almost be certain it's not about heartfelt love and m/m romance. You're just hearing these stories now because they're being reported more often.

True story. I remember this young guy we knew from NY who was dating an older gay guy from New Jersey. At the time they met, the older guy had inherited a huge sum of money.  Of course then he invested all the money in bad dot com stocks, lost it all when the market crashed, and the young guy left him faster than you can tweet an inspirational quote about kittens. Some people were actually surprised the young guy left the older guy when he had a reversal of fortune.  

You can read the rest here. 

Alleged Hate Beating On Christmas

A guy in Virginia is alleging he was beaten in his home on Christmas night, "savagely."

“I was thrown into my bathtub, and stomped in the face and jaw over and over while being called a ‘faggot,’” Inge wrote on Facebook.

He said the attacker, a man he barely knew, tackled him from behind and “slammed my fingers on my right hand into the door, breaking them and ripping them open.”

According to the comments, this one sounds suspicious. And Facebook is involved, which can make anything questionable. Facebook jokes are like crooked attorney jokes. They're all true.  There's more here, and I'll follow up if I see anything else.

Indiana Gay Bar To Close

I have to admit that anything west of Philadelphia and east of Los Angeles is foreign territory to me, however, here's yet another gay bar in Indiana that's set to shutter like so many others. 

The narrow, pink-fronted Main Street bar with its dark-wood-paneled interior, currently billed as the oldest operating gay bar in Indiana, has seen a lot of history, from the days of bricks hurled through the front window to the legalization of same-sex marriage.

After Dec. 31, the Mark III Tap Room's chapter in that history will close — at least for now.

It's a long article and gives a little history about the bar, and also a few reasons for why it might be closing. However, with so many other gay bars closing all over the world, you can't help but wonder if this is just another sign we're seeing the final days of the gay bar in general.

Here's the link. 

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Monday, December 28, 2015

When Her boyfriend Is Gay; Being Gay In 2015; No One Likes A Faggot

When Her Boyfriend Is Gay

Here's an interesting post...about how straight women react when they find out their boyfriends are gay.

Each meme/person, in this case, has a different reaction. This one kind of gutted me.

My boy friend just told me he was gay. I wish he would have told me before I fell in love with him. 

You can check out the rest of the memes here. Some are more uplifting. But the one above really tugs at the heart strings.


Being Gay In 2015

Here's a glance back over this past year about what it was like to be gay, and how various events unfolded. I think the most significant was the way SCOTUS ruled.

Everyone will long remember the Supreme Court decision granting marriage equality. But it’s easy to forget the equally important string of favorable decisions that led up to that ruling and the favorable decisions that followed. Court after court struck down state bans on same-sex marriage, often in eloquent language defending our rights. Nor did it stop there. As a sign of how serious the courts are, Kim Davis, America’s least beloved county clerk, was thrown in jail for contempt of court for refusing to issue same-sex couples marriage licenses. Nor has it stopped there. Just this month, the Supreme Court stopped an Alabama court from denying parental rights to a lesbian, signalling that the marriage case may lead to stronger protections for gay parents.

The rest of the article goes on to talk about other things, for example, will gay identity mean as much as it used to mean now that marriage is legal. There's a link to another article there that focuses on the topic. It sounds like an argument I've heard many times before from older gay men about how gay culture will begin to disappear as more LGBT people...particularly gay men...assimilate into mainstream culture.
 
“People are missing a sense of community, a sense of sharing,” Eric Marcus, the author of “Making Gay History,” told the paper. “There is something wonderful about being part of an oppressed community.”

I think we're caught somewhere in the middle, and I think it's too soon to predict the outcome. There's still a lot of work to do, but we did win equal rights in one of the most fundamental fights (if not the most) of our time: marriage. So when gay men do assimilate into the mainstream I'm not so sure that is such a bad thing anymore.

You can read this article here, and the other at the link above. There are a lot of interesting comments with varying opinions, which once again proves how diverse the gay community really is.

No One Likes A Faggot

Now this is definitely the kind of story that puts the old days of being gay and being oppressed into a different perspective. There's absolutely nothing wonderful about it. It's still happening, but not quite as often. 

It's a story about a guy who was in such denial...and living with such fear...about being gay he had sex with another guy, and then what he did afterward is just gut-wrenching.

He reached out to me and told me he loved me. And I spit in his face.

I called him names like “faggot” and “queer.” I told him I wasn’t like him and never wanted to be. I said that I’d tell everyone he was lying and that he’d told me about being gay and I’d rejected him. I told him to leave and never come back.

You can read the entire story here. It's well-written and it's a subject I know happens and yet we never hear much about. But I do think kids in high school are dealing with this a little differently nowadays, at least compared to ten or twenty years ago. From what I see with my own nieces and nephews they don't even care if you're gay anymore.


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Saturday, December 26, 2015

Ted Cruz On Gay Marriage; Gay Superheros/Comic Books; Former Marshall University Football Player and Gay Rights Case

Ted Cruz On Gay Marriage

I see a great many questionable things on social media about all of the political candidates running for President and when I see an article that looks real and looks valid I jump on it. Because MOST of what I see is either hype or propaganda. This looks real.

As far as I know, this is verbatim:


Cruz: “My view on gay marriage is that I’m a constitutionalist and marriage is a question for the states. And so I think if someone wants to change the marriage laws of their state, the way to do so is convince your fellow citizens — and change them democratically, rather than five unelected judges. … Being a constitutionalist is integral to my approach to every other issue. So that I’m very devoted to.”

Same questioner: “So would you say it’s like a top-three priority for you — fighting gay marriage?”

Cruz: “No. I would say defending the Constitution is a top priority. And that cuts across the whole spectrum — whether it’s defending [the] First Amendment, defending religious liberty, stopping courts from making public policy issues that are left to the people. …

“I also think the 10th Amendment of the Constitution cuts across a whole lot of issues and can bring people together. People of New York may well resolve the marriage question differently than the people of Florida or Texas or Ohio. … That’s why we have 50 states — to allow a diversity of views. And so that is a core commitment.”


Of course we all know that when Judge Jones ruled that a ban on gay marriage was unconstitutional, he basically legalized same sex marriage in the state of Pennsylvania. So far that decision in Pennsylvania has been fought and argued in the courts, particularly by one right wing Christian evangelist clerk, and a ban on gay marriage has been shot down each time as being unconstitutional. So all you need to know is there's an argument about what's constitutional or not.  It never was a simple matter.

There's more here. The good news is that same sex marriage doesn't even seem to be an issue anymore with any of these candidates in the upcoming general election. I think I've heard it mentioned once in the debates.


Gay Superheros

Here's an article about how it's becoming more and more popular to find LGBT characters in comic books.

In October, Alysia Yeoh, a transgender friend of Batgirl, and her girlfriend Jo were married in a simple ceremony unmarred by super-villainy; Peter Parker, perhaps better known as Spider-Man, attended the wedding of Max Modell, his scientific mentor and gay colleague; and Wiccan and Hulkling, a superpowered gay couple, joined a division of the Avengers along with Hawkeye and Songbird. In August, Wonder Woman officiated a lesbian wedding, and since June, fans have been treated to the monthly adventures of Midnighter, who is out about his heroic identity and his sexual orientation. That month also saw the first issue of “Stripling Warrior,” which features superheroes that are gay and lesbian — and Mormon.

It's a good article, here's the link. 

From what I gather all you need to know with this one is that the industry is realizing that in order to keep up with the times, and reader demand, they're keeping the story lines relevant by incorporating LGBT characters into mainstream comics. Which will probably happen in mainstream fiction, too.

Former Marshall University Football Player and Gay Rights Case

The West Virginia Supreme Court is being asked if a former Marshall University football player can be charged with violating the civil rights of two gay men he is accused of assaulting after he saw them kissing on a city street.

The accused is 24 years old, he's pleading not guilty, and the complaint alleges he jumped out of a car and punched them both in the face. Allegedly, there's a video.

Here's a link to the rest.  

There's a also a photo of the accused, and a few comments.

It's a shame...in general. He's a nice looking man.

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"Ticker" On Facebook; Gus Kenworthy's Christmas Card; The Coolest Gayborhood

"Ticker" On Facebook

When I post things like this I only refer to me. I also think Facebook is a great  form of social media but not one  to be taken too seriously for anything other than social interaction. In other words it's great for selfies and what you had for dinner...which is what it was intended to be.

I never really paid much attention to the "ticker" thing on Facebook that shows you what everyone is posting, liking, or commenting about. I'm usually too busy to care what other people are doing. What I see in my news feed on Facebook is what Facebook decides to show me on any given day. 

I never post anything political or offensive because I'm not all that political to begin with. If I see someone who is too political for my tastes...and it could be right wing or left wing...I usually stop following their updates. I enjoy interacting with social media friends and I think it's important to respect their opinions. But when they become too aggressive I back off completely.

With that said, I think learning how to use social media in a general sense is important. We lose a lot of privacy and sometimes things get misinterpreted. The other night I "liked" an update on Facebook that was political, however, I wasn't agreeing with the update I was "liking" so that my friend would see I'd been there. I didn't even take it very seriously, and about three minutes later a woman I don't even known sent me a PM asking me if I know what I just clicked "like" to.

I responded by politely telling her I don't discuss politics on social media with anyone. It's rule I don't break. Yet she responded with a more aggressive PM about how I should know what I'm clicking "like" to. I warned her I don't discuss politics and I blocked her right after that. There's no point in going to battle with someone like that. It's a waste of time. And then I started to wonder how she even knew I clicked "like" to that particular update.

It had to be the "ticker" feature on Facebook that's running constantly all day long and stealing more of our privacy. I don't really care all that much about it, but I did a quick search to see if I could turn it off so no one knows what I "like" or comment on. I found out that's not possible...yet. So from now on I've decided to just click "like" to everything I see, randomly. I figure that if I do that I'll confuse Facebook so much they won't know what to think.

However, if you do care what people see, beware of the "ticker" feature on Facebook. There's always someone out there somewhere spying on you and this feature only makes it easier for them.

Gus Kenworthy's Christmas Card

This is adorable. But anything this guy does is adorable.

 It’s that time of year. We’re out shopping for gifts for our loved ones, singing Christmas carols, getting Santa aroused. Well, that last one’s true if you’re on the Queerty staff  Gus Kenworthy. The puppy-rescuing, Olympic medal-winning silver fox did his fans a solid this year with a photo taken on the lap of lucky Ole Kris Kringle. Note Kenworthy’s cheeky caption: “Sit on my lap and let’s talk about the first thing that pops up.” That’s not a candy cane, folks.

You can check that out here. 

That's one lucky Santa.  

The Coolest Gayborhood


Here's one of those voting contest things where you can vote on which city has the coolest gayborhood. I know many of you out there reading this blog are rolling your eyes because you probably don't live in a gayborhood. Many gay men I know personally prefer NOT to live in, or even near, a gayborhood.  And, these places area also referred to as "gay ghettos." I'm not sure if that's PC or not to say, but I honestly don't care about being PC too much anymore.

Gayborhoods don’t necessarily need rainbow-painted sidewalks to grab our attention. LGBT folks have always gravitated to the coolest parts in town, but now we need your help to find which city has the hippest gayborhood.

Here's how you can vote. 

What I'm always wondering is how long these gayborhoods are going to stick around. In other words, will they wind up disappearing like the gay bars have in many places as younger gay men assimilate more?

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Thursday, December 24, 2015

14th Gay Attack In Dallas; Gay History of Christmas; Yawn: The War On Christmas

14th Gay Attack In Dallas

They are calling a series of violent attacks in Dallas gay related.

The unnamed victim is believed to be the fourteenth in a series of robberies and brutal attacks targeting gay men in the area, where more than a dozen gay bars are located, since September.

Dallas police Assistant Chief Randall Blankenbaker told WFAA news that the victim was knocked to the ground, kicked and had his belongings taken from him during the attack around 10.30pm in the parking lot behind the Round-Up Saloon, a gay bar.

‘At least one of the suspects used offensive language in reference to the victim’s perceived sexual orientation,’ the police spokesman said.

It says police are referring to this as a "bias crime," which is a hate crime. You can read more here. 

Gay History of Christmas

This has nothing at all to do with gay history...or even modern gay culture...as we know it. But it is a fascinating article about Saturnalia during Roman times.

Midwinter; fires are crackling, the home smells sharp of evergreen, candles flicker, glass glitters, the table sags. Drink flows like rivers and you and your partner snuggle up on a couch to shag and booze the holiday away.

But this isn’t Christmas: it’s Saturnalia, the ancient Roman festival dedicated to the fertility god Saturn around the first century BC. And it’s the true origin of Christmas.

There's a lot more here. 

I really have been searching for LGBT related posts and articles that focus more on gay Christmas nowadays but so far I haven't come up with anything substantial and I'm not sure why that is.

Yawn: The War On Christmas

Maybe this is why I'm not seeing anything about gay Christmas, or anything Christmas related, in gay presses.

This left wing negativity is typical of what I've been seeing.

Year after year, Oprah has led her legions of followers into a vast valley of credit card debt by giving them a laundry list of lavish holiday gifts to buy for themselves and their loved ones. Past items on Oprah‘s “Favorite Things” list have included iPads, $100 yoga pants, cashmere sweaters, designer handbags, Burberry coats and a 7-day Royal Caribbean cruise. Oh, and don’t forget that subscription to O Magazine and that DVD of The Oprah Winfrey Show: 20th Anniversary Collection as stocking stuffers! #ka-ching!
  
I think this article might be a good example of how gay presses as we've always known them might start disappearing in the near future. Why make everything so political all the time? Why be that douchey gay guy who makes the rest of us look bad? It's Christmas. Fall out the holly. That's all you need to know.

You can the rest of this here. There's one comment and it's not all that supportive.  

 
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Gay Nigerian Gets Tricked and Beaten; Sam Barton Attacked by Lesbian; Kirk Cameron's Christmas Special

Gay Nigerian Gets Tricked and Beaten

Here's a post about how LGBT people in other parts of the world live and survive, and what they are dealing with. It's the story of how an innocent, young Nigerian was tricked into getting naked and wound up beaten and homeless instead. The story was sent to this publication I'm linking to know. However, I always wonder how many other stories there are like this that we never hear about.


It is believed the pharmacy manager encouraged Abraham to strip naked and then seized his clothes before calling in the mob.

‘I have asked them not to beat him, but really I may not be able to help the situation if they go against that.’

NoStrings arrived at the scene to find the mob armed with planks, slapping and beating Abraham while he was still naked.

The neighbors threatened to call the police but recognized officers would likely not take him to court, despite Nigeria having some of the harshest laws in the world against homosexuality. The mob believed the police would demand bail cash from Abraham so they could corruptly pocket the money.


Here's the rest.

Sam Baron Attacked by Lesbian


I don't know anything about Joey Essex or Sam Barton, but Joey Essex lookalike, Sam Barton, was allegedly attacked in a bar by an aggressive Lesbian. Sounds as if she really yanked him around.



The incident took place last Thursday (17 December). He told Gay Star News: ‘I have no idea [who she was] – she was just a lesbian behind me in the bar with who I assume was her girlfriend.
‘It all happened so fast. I noticed someone taking a picture of me from behind, I turned round and she was talking in my ear. She asked me if I was Sam Barton out the paper and I said yes. I couldn’t really make out what she was saying as she was so drunk. Straight after she pushed and tried to punch me, she slammed her bottle down, said sorry and left.

 
Barton is going to take up kickboxing in case anymore lesbians go after him. The rest is here. 


Kirk Cameron's Christmas Special

This time I have to agree with the gay presses. There's an unusual video out with Kirk Cameron...the once TV sitcom child star all "growed" up now...sitting in a Christmas setting before a roaring fireplace with the oddest message I think I've ever seen. I always want to give him the benefit of the doubt because I don't think he actually "gets" it. Or maybe I'm wrong and he's just as weird as this video.


On the other hand, it’s not that hard to turn whatever Cameron is saying into something dark, twisted and hilarious.

Still, we have to wonder: what is in Kirk’s hot chocolate, anyways?


Aside from the grammar issue (this one always bothers me) where the author of this article used the colloquial "anyways," it will make you wonder. There would have been so many better ways to get this message out there. And it actually would have been a good message had it not been so creepy.


You can view it here.  

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Wednesday, December 23, 2015

If Adele Has a Gay Son; Philly Gay Bashing Trial; Thoughts On the Gay "Poz" Cruise

If Adele Has a Gay Son

Here's a "what if" question that's interesting. Adele recently commented on how she would react if she were to have a gay son.

He makes me so proud of myself, and he makes me like myself so much. And I’ve always liked myself. I’ve never not liked myself. I don’t have hangups like that.

But I’m so proud of myself that I made him in my belly. Cooked him in my belly and then he came out of me! This human who’s suddenly walking around and doing his own thing.

I can’t wait to know who his best friends are going to be, who his girlfriend or his boyfriend is going to be or what movies he likes.

Whatever my kid wants to do or be I will always support him no matter what.”

You can check this out here.

I hope she feels the same way if he turns out to be a gay Republican Log Cabin Attorney.

Philly Gay Bashing Trial

This saga seems to continue. Now Kathryn Knott's attorneys are allegedly asking for a mistrial based on what a juror claimed on social media. It's complicated and I don't like to comment on legal matters I don't understand completely...unlike so many other bloggers and tweeters I see.

This comment is very disturbing:

In the thread, which has since been deleted, Duenas claimed that many of the jurors got very emotional during deliberations and often yelled at one another. He also claimed they didn’t convict Knott of the most serious charge, aggravated assault, because they felt bad for her. According to Duenas, one juror said: “I don’t care if she did it, I don’t feel right sending her to jail.”

I don't get that kind of logic and this is one reason why "a jury of peers" has always made me cringe.

That juror is not my peer.


You can read the rest here.

Thoughts On the Gay "Poz" Cruise

Here's a post about what it's like to be on a cruise ship with hundreds of HIV positive men. There is a list of five different observations, and here's one of them.

Growing older is never a picnic – and that goes double for a gay man – but long-term HIV survivors have additional challenges ranging from survivor’s guilt to post-traumatic stress disorder. “Long time survivors really love the idea of getting away from it all with friends who really get it,” said Paul Stalbaum, the travel agent who has organized the Poz Cruise for the last 12 years and is a longtime survivor himself. “That may be why so many ‘men of a certain age’ join the Poz Cruise each year,” Stalbaum added. “The older survivors bond over shared histories while the younger cruisers have a ready-made group of mature friends and mentors.” If everyone rallies together for an afternoon of mud masks on the beach (above), all the better.

You can read all of them here. There are images, and it's a fascinating commentary in general.

Of course most of the comments are supportive, but there's always one douche who has to fuck things up for everyone else. But people went after him this time.


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"Queer" Christmas Songs; Steve Grand's Trevor LaPaglia; Gay Rights Miniseries on ABC TV

"Queer" Christmas Songs

It's always interesting how so many older songs use the word gay in a different context. As in "bright and gay..." in the old song I'll be seeing you. But I didn't know there are gay Christmas songs...or as this article puts it "queer" songs. I think the main point for me with this is how words and communication tend to evolve over time. 

Though holiday carols have been around for thousands of years, it wasn't until recently that we finally had a batch of tunes that we could proudly call queer. Whether it's because a song is being sung by an out artist or because of how campy it is, the tracks in the slideshow below comprise some of our favorites -- some old, some new, some serious, some seriously ridiculous -- to provide you with a soundtrack for all of your holiday activities.

This article was released a year ago, and I haven't heard the word "queer" used quite as often by anyone in the gay community as I did last year or the year before that. I don't know what that means and I'm not taking the time to find out. All I know is I don't use it and neither do any of the gay people I know in RL. I don't mind it and I understand it. But I don't use it.

You can check this out here. 

Steve Grand's Trevor LaPaglia

In case you happened to miss it, there's a great new video out by Steven Grand for Christmas and he's actually made it gay oriented with gay romance scenes. I'm almost ashamed to admit that seeing two men this way in a video, even though I've lived most of my adult this way in RL, is oddly shocking even to me. But that's because we're so used to seeing nothing but heteronormative romance scenes everywhere it's become a novelty of sorts...at least for the time being. That's going to change.

Trevor LaPaglia did not expect to expect to spend last weekend snuggling, kissing and hanging ornaments with Steve Grand.

But he did for Grand’s new holiday video All I Want For Christmas is You which hit YouTube on Monday (21 December) and had more than 90,000 views in its first 12 hours.

LaPaglia, 26, first met Grand a few years ago during the gay ski week event Elevation which is held each year at California’s Mammoth Lakes.

You can check that out here. 

I think Grand is not only breaking ground, but he's becoming a master at promotion. I also think that someday there are going to be an awful lot of old men in the nursing home named Trevor.

Gay Rights Miniseries on ABC TV

There's a new miniseries coming to ABC that was written by Dustin Lance Black that focuses on the gay rights movement from Stonewall in 1969 to the present.

The team that brought a 2008 feature film about slain gay civil rights hero Harvey Milk to the screen is reuniting for a gay rights miniseries to air on ABC.

The network on Monday (21 December) officially greenlit When We Rise, an eight-hour miniseries written by Dustin lance Black who won the Academy Award for his screenplay for Milk.

Gus Van Sant, Oscar nominated for directing Milk, will direct the first two-hpur episode and Milk producer Bruce Cohen is on board to executive produce the miniseries with Black.

I can't help but wonder how this will make out with ratings. The documentary I was in, The State of Marriage, was in the making for many years and it was timely for the story it told. However, it wasn't released until after SCOTUS ruled on same sex marriage and I think that took some of the interest away from it. I haven't even seen it yet and I was in it. And I can't help but wonder if ABC isn't going to suffer the same consequences with this miniseries. Of course the content is still relevant and will be forever, from a cultural POV. I'm just not sure if people are going to tune in the same way they might have tuned in four or five years ago.

The most interesting thing I've noticed with gay culture is that we seem to be assimilating into the mainstream these days far more...and faster...than any other minority I could name. Steve Grand's video above is a good example of what I'm talking about. It's gay content, but also about as heteronormative as it can get. And it's what people want, or at least it seems to be.

You can check this out here.  The comments, so far, don't sound too encouraging for this miniseries. I'll definitely record it and watch it later on DVR.

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Tuesday, December 22, 2015

Provincetown Winter Population Dwindling; Bette Midler's Hate Tweet on George Bush; Pharma-Bro Conspiracy

Provincetown Winter Population Dwindling

Provincetown, MA is a lot like Fire Island in NY or Wilton Manors in FL. It's a gay enclave for the LGBT community that started out many years ago as a small town just like any other.  I think it was a fishing village. Even though Tony and I used to go there...for fifteen years in a row...in the summer, the fall, and for New Year's Eve, I never got much history while I was there.

In my lifetime I've always known it as a gay enclave where the majority come from Boston, and other places in NE like Providence, and the rest from all over the US. On the morning of 911 two guys who were staying at the same guest house where we were staying were on their way to pick up a flight in Boston to LA. I never did find out what happened to them.

But I digress. Here's a NYT piece about how Provincetown is changing. In this case they're talking about how the winter population (or year round) is thinning out. 

“It’s like a Potemkin village,” Stephen Borkowski, 61, a freelance art historian and year-round resident, said the other day as he strolled down the middle of a deserted Commercial Street, where many shops were closed for the season. “There are the store facades and about five people.”
Provincetown, like many summer havens, is caught in a vicious cycle of economic and demographic change, with a widening divide between the haves and the have-nots that is threatening its future. The long-running invasion by second-home owners and investors, who now own 71 percent of the homes here, has jacked up the price of real estate. One 418-square-foot home, albeit with 30 feet of mesmerizing waterfront, is going for nearly $1.6 million.


I remember when Provincetown was still fairly affordable, and then people started buying up property and turning casual guest houses into five star bed and breakfasts, or tasteful seasonal homes. It's really very nice and I'm not sure I understand why they want to change something that seems to work for the majority of people who have invested there.

The rest of the article talks about how they plan to battle this. It's interesting because they discuss living in a society without children, almost as if there's something wrong with that. One of the reasons I like P'town is because there aren't that many children running loose.

Bette Midler's Hate Tweet on George Bush

I think everyone's heard about the way Steve Harvey announced the wrong winner in Miss Universe the other night. It was an unfortunate situation for everyone. When they took that crown from her head and I saw her expression it gutted me. These women work so hard to get there.

However, the gay presses seem to be thrilled...and I mean thrilled to the point of getting a thrill up their legs...that good old Bette Midler weighed in with a tweet. Eight years later and she's still knocking George Bush with an unspoken kind of hate.  

Wrong crowned last night. For 2 minutes. Remember when that happened with our President in 2000 & we had to keep him 8 years?

It's really not the most intelligent comparison but I won't go into detail about that.


I remember that morning after the general election in 2000. I didn't vote for Bush and the headline in my morning paper read Gore had won. I'd voted for Gore and figured fine and let it go...until I found out later that day things were different. At the time I wasn't thrilled.

But I'm not sitting around tossing bad tweets toward George Bush anymore. That was 15 years ago and a lot has changed everywhere, especially for gay people. Since bush left office not one single politician helped pass legal same sex marriage, including President Obama and Hillary Clinton. It was fought state by state and the courts made those changes.

You can check that out here.  

Pharma-Bro Conspiracy

The guy who has been dubbed Pharma-bro, Martin Shkreli, who raised drug prices and was recently arrested by the FBI is talking conspiracy theory now.

In an interview with The Wall Street Journal, Shkreli insisted that the FBI was going after him because back in August he jacked up the price of Daraprim, a drug used by some HIV patients, by more than 5,000 percent overnight, going from $13.50 to $750 per tablet.

“‘Trying to find anything we could to stop him,’ was the attitude of the government,” Shkreli snarled. “Beating the person up and then trying to find the merits to make up for it — I would have hoped the government wouldn’t take that kind of approach.”

He also claimed that he was being punished for his snarky Twitter account and “because of a social experiment and teasing people over the Internet.”


You can read the rest here. You don't want to miss the comments with this one.


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Monday, December 21, 2015

Winner Winner Chicken Dinner Christmas Giveaway!! Woody's In Philadelphia; What Did You Search For On Google This Year? Boy Band Singer Says He's Bisexual Now

Winner Winner Chicken Dinner Christmas Giveaway!!


And we have a winner!

On Friday I announced a Christmas giveaway with directions on how to enter. The contest closed last evening at six o'clock and I chose a winner at random.


The winner of the print book, A Christmas Carl, is " Rambling Rose aka The Smut Queen!!"  I have her e-mail address and I'll contact her today.

However, there's a consolation prize for the other people who entered. I almost always do that whenever there's a giveaway. Each person who commented will receive a free review copy for Fangsters Book 1.

If you didn't leave me your e-mail address, please e-mail me here rfieldj@aol.com so I can send you the e-book. 

Thanks to everyone who participated and to everyone who shared this on social media!!

Woody's In Philadelphia

When I saw this link on Queerty I figured I'd share it. I didn't even know Woody's was still in business. I used to go there when I was single, and evidently they're still going strong.

Woody's is gay venue in Philadelphia that's been around for a long time. 

Saturday, December 19, 2015

Margaret Cho's Fashion Police Salary; Jonathan Groff Working It On Broadway; Liverpool's Gay District Going Wizard of Oz

Margaret Cho's Fashion Police Salary

Ever since Joan Rivers passed away I've been following what's been happening with Fashion Police and I haven't always been thrilled. I'm not a Kathy Griffin fan and when she finally left FP and Tweeted about leaving with all that unnecessary drama, I thought there was a lot of hope left for the show...with Griffin gone.

The changes seem to be working, the show is fresh again, and Margaret Cho was a great addition. But Cho wants to set the record straight, so to speak, about her salary.

‘I am not making six figures!’ Cho wrote in a Facebook post. ‘I will earn about $5000 per episode, which isn’t actually very much for me, yet I am proud to make that much because I love to spend time with (writers) Tony Tripoli, Teddy Margas Melissa Rivers, Giuliana Rancic and Brad Goreski.

‘We get up at the crack of dawn and honor our old friend Joan Rivers. We laugh and enjoy each other and remember the magical woman and mentor we have lost. I am grateful to be on the show and I would do it for free. Six figures would be nice though! Who gets that for anything? I don’t even know! Not me!’

The rest is here.

Jonathan Groff Working It On Broadway

No one can ever say Jonathan Groff doesn't work hard. He seems to be everywhere, including Broadway. He really does seem like the consummate actor who only cares about the art and the craft.  He's not posting selfies and he's not trying to outdo himself all over social media. He's only interested in acting. That's not easy to find anywhere these days...an actor who wants to act.

The multi-talented star of stage and screen is currently playing the role of King George III in the smash Broadway musical Hamilton.

‘It’s like a drug coming out there every night,’ Groff told Charlie Rose this week. ‘It’s so amazing to be breathing in the air of the Hamilton experience. That alone is so incredibly special and something I’ll never forget.’

He provides the comic relief during a mere nine minutes of stage time.

‘It’s delicious writing. I love saying it every night,’ Groff says. ‘Before I joined the show,. I knew it was nine minutes of show time. I have not gotten sick of (of it). I’ve done it over 100 times.

 There's more here with a huge close up of Groff. If I were an actor I'd do something like that for free just to get the experience.

Liverpool's Gay District Going Wizard of Oz

I guess they know they don't have to do this in Liverpool. Wizard of Oz fandom and being gay is not always one in the same. In other words, there are a lot of gay men out there who have seen The Wizard of Oz once and that was enough. The streets where they live don't have to resemble The Wizard of Oz.

Maybe they're going for  high camp in Liverpool with this makeover? I'm not sure.


Stanley Street Quarter, the ‘official LGBT Quarter’ for the northern England city of Liverpool has announced that Eberle Street is to be given a major makeover inspired by the classic film, The Wizard of Oz.

Whereas the gay scenes in other cities are facing tough times, the city of Liverpool is spending £1.4million ($2.1m/€1.9m) on a program to improve the walking connections between the Commercial District and the retail core of the city center.

The article linked to in the above quote is interesting because I've posted about that before. Its a piece on how difficult it's becoming to own and operate exclusively gay businesses...and how many gay clubs have shuttered in the UK.

I don't live in Liverpool so it's not something I care all that much about. However, if my township did something like that to my street I would move. I spend a good deal of my life getting slapped in the face with the old gay stereotypes...almost daily...and I don't feel the need to support them anymore.

You can check the rest out here.  

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Friday, December 18, 2015

Christmas Book Giveaway; Verdict In Philly Gay Bashing; Coming Out as a Christian Evangelical; Homophobic Holiday Settings

Christmas Book Giveaway

My social media followers will wonder why I'm posting about this again. The reason is that the majority of my blog hits come from random google searches and not from within any book communities.

And I'm happy about that. I'm glad it happens. I've worked hard to separate my blogger identity from my author identity without changing my real name or identity, partly by always keeping this blog rated PG. It's not always easy to keep that separate.

It's interesting. Facebook gives me the least amount of hits.  Twitter is a little better. But most come from Google through people searching for LGBT information. And they always have.

So I'm re-posting the link to the Christmas book giveaway I'm doing this weekend for the people who will find out about it through a random search. And they come from all over the world.

Yesterday's post should tell you all you need to know about the book giveaway, if you're interested.

Verdict In Philly Gay Bashing Trial

The verdicts in the "Philly Gay Bashing" trial I've been following since last year are in and a lot of people are left wondering WTF happened there.

Of course the alleged gay bashing incident happened in Philadelphia, which is a very gay friendly city, but proves anything can still happen anywhere and no gay people are really safe.

After a series of contentious, "heated" deliberations, a Philadelphia jury returned a mixed verdict Friday in the assault trial of Kathryn Knott, finding the Bucks County woman guilty of simple assault and conspiracy to commit simple assault against Zachary Hesse, one of two victims beaten as they walked to get pizza in Center City on Sept. 11, 2014. 

Knott also was found guilty of reckless endangerment against both Hesse and his boyfriend, Andrew Haught, but acquitted of aggravated assault, a felony and the most serious charge against her.

You can read the rest here. I don't want to comment on the trial at all because I do believe we have to respect the process no matter what the outcome. The deliberations are being described as "heated" and one juror said this:

Another juror, Gina Cook, described the process as "three days of fighting, vomiting and getting sick."

Coming Out As a Christian Evangelical

A Christian researcher is claiming that it's more difficult for an evangelical Christian to come out and admit it openly than it is for an LGBTI person.


“What I see here is that if you are a conservative Evangelical at a major law firm or at an Ivy League university, you have a much harder time coming out of the closet as a conservative Evangelical than you do coming out as a gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender.

“That’s an empirical question but my experience at Princeton, and that was a decade ago, that it was much more of a contentious subject to say that you were opposed to same-sex marriage than to say that you were in favor of it.”

I actually can see his point. I would imagine it is difficult...in certain places. I just don't think it's more difficult. There is no place easy for a gay person to come out. I would imagine...sarcasm intended...there are still quite a few LGBTI people in university settings all over the world that still don't feel comfortable coming out as gay. And so far I don't think I've ever heard of  story where a teen got kicked out of his or her house because he or she was a Christian.

Someone should tell this guy the LGBTI community is not comprised of what he sees in the media.

You can read the rest here. 

Homophobic Holiday Settings

Comedian Sam Kalidi whom I love did another meme about what it's like for gay people to have to suffer through the holiday season. I know it's a serious topic and no one is laughing about it, but this is meant to be sarcasm.

We’ve asked online comedian, voice actor and chest hair model Sam Kalidi to create a comedic post each week for Queerty readers. This week he thinks about people who crawl back in the closet when visiting parents during the holidays. Sam looks forward to all your hate mail.You can find him on TwitterFacebook, Instagram and at your local glory hole.

You can check it out here.  

I think I've mentioned that for the first 15 years Tony and I were together we visited our families on the holidays separately because Tony's family had no idea he was gay or that I even existed. Fifteen years. Things  are great now and I love his family like my own. But it's never been easy for gay people when it comes to things like this, so we look for the humor in it.