Wednesday, September 30, 2015

October FREE Gay Book and Sales Ryan Field; The Pope and Kim Davis; Matt Damon Gay Damage Control; Closted Married Men Going To Counselors

October Book Sales Ryan Field

This month I'm doing a few freebies and sales with books, one of which will be offered for free for everyone, and one which will be offered at a discount for non KU members and free to KU members.

Here are the books and links.

The Rainbow Detective Agency Box Set...It's the first four books in the series in one digital box set. There is a new one coming out this month and I'm working on another right now. This will be discounted to $4.99 from October 1 to the 8th for non KU members. It's also FREE with Kindle Unlimited (KU).

Meadows Are Not Forever...This one is a full length gay romance novel that is free with Kindle Unlimited and will be FREE for everyone else from October 1 to the 8th. This book is close to me for several reasons, one of which is that one man reviewed it, contacted me about the review, and he really "got" what I was trying to do. This book is not erotic romance. It's romance. And the central theme is that gay men don't always have to have sex to get romance. You all know I'm no prude, but sometimes a story needs no sex to come across the way it should. I also think it's a dilemma most gay men have faced at least once in their lives.

The Pope and Kim Davis

Update: Here's a link to the NYT. Evidently, the Vatican has confirmed that Davis did meet with the Pope. 
 
On Wednesday, the Vatican spokesman, the Rev. Federico Lombardi, confirmed that the meeting took place, but he declined to elaborate. “I do not deny that the meeting took place, but I have no other comments to add,” he said.

I hate posting anything about Kim Davis again but this was just too interesting to pass up. Now she's claiming she had a private meeting with the Pope while he was in Washington. So far the Vatican isn't saying anything definitive, but the Pope did say he supported Davis's right not to hand out marriage licenses while on his way back to the Vatican.

Offering no comment on the previously unannounced meeting, the Vatican would neither confirm nor deny that it took place.

"I never thought I would meet the Pope," Davis said via her legal team. "Who am I to have this rare opportunity? I am just a County Clerk who loves Jesus and desires with all my heart to serve him."

The meeting is said to have occurred last Thursday, the same day Francis addressed Congress. Davis was in Washington for another purpose: She received a Cost of Discipleship award at the Family Research Council's Values Voter Summit on Friday night.

You can read the rest here. It's a link to NPR and they're usually reliable. 

What I find most interesting is that this was all allegedly planned weeks ago by the Vatican and the entire time the Pope was here in the US it was never once mentioned. So indirectly, the Pope lied by not disclosing this to the public, up front, like the sex abuse scandals. If this meeting did take place and if what Kim Davis claims is true, it was a cover up.

In any event, I expect this type of thing from the Pope anyway, so I'm not all that surprised or upset about it.

Matt Damon Gay Damage Control

Judge Judy has a saying that goes like this:

"Don't pee on my leg and tell me it's raining."

That's what came to mind when I read this. 

After articles and posts came out about Matt Damon allegedly stating that gay actors should probably keep their sexuality to themselves because it's better for their careers, Damon went on the Ellen show and clarified what he said. He claims his quotes were taken out of context.

The Ellen Show was a last minute booking. (They think we don't know.) 

“I was just trying to say actors are more effective when they’re a mystery, right?” he clarified. “And somebody picked it up and said I said gay actors should get back in the closet. Which is like, I mean it’s stupid, but it is painful when things get said that you don’t believe. You know what I mean? And then it gets represented that that’s what you believe.”


He blamed bloggers, as usual.

He then pointed a finger at the “blogosphere,” saying, “There’s no real penalty for just taking the ball and running with it. You know what I mean? You’re just trying to click on your thing.”

Evidently, there's no real penalty for dropping the ball either.


You can read the rest here.    


Closeted Married Men Are Going To Counselors

This article brings up the topic of cheating spouses and it mentions closeted gay men who are sneaking around on their wives with other men they meet online. It sounds as if the entire free world is out there having all this hot sex fun while the rest of us are missing the proverbial party.

A sexologist in Winter Park, FL says he could “literally work 24 hours a day, seven days a week” because of all the people cheating on their significant others thanks to websites like Craigslist and Ashley Madison.

 “The volume is that great,” Michael Rothenberg, sexologist and owner of onlinesexualaddiction.com, tells the Orlando Sentinel. “It’s becoming easier and easier to find a sexual partner.”

You can read the rest here. I'm not sure how to speculate on this one. I don't have a Grindr account and I didn't even know what Ashley Madison was until the Christian Josh Duggar incident. Oh, and surprise, I'm married.

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Tuesday, September 29, 2015

October

Is Matt Damon A Douche?; Pope Francis and Kim Davis; No Gay Sex For Sherlock Homes and Watson

Is Matt Damon A Douche? 
 
Here's an article that talks about how Matt Damon thinks it's better for actors to remain in the closet and not talk about their sexuality openly. This comment comes not too long after he was slammed for mansplaining to an African American woman in the film industry.

“But at the time, I remember thinking and saying, Rupert Everett was openly gay and this guy – more handsome than anybody, a classically trained actor – it’s tough to make the argument that he didn’t take a hit for being out.”

You can read more here. 

He goes on to state that he thinks actors should remain in the closet. It's really very typical of the straight, white, left wing liberal mentality of people coming from places of privilege...who think they know.

However, even though I don't agree with Damon and I don't like it when straight people give advice like this to younger gay people, his main point isn't without merit.

Here's what Michael Sam says about coming out as gay in the world of pro sports.

When asked if he thought he'd currently be on an NFL roster if things had gone differently, Sam said, "I'm not going to say ... but it probably would have been better for me if I didn't come out, I would be on a roster."

He then stressed, "I have no regrets whatsoever." 

And that's my main point. Even though coming out as gay may or may not have hurt Michael Sam's career, he doesn't regret it. And that's something that comes down to the most fundamental concept of being gay and being open about it. You can sleep at night. No straight person will ever understand that, Matt Damon. 

I don't blog or write books about gay men thinking about what Matt Damon says. I don't care what Matt Damon says or thinks. I think he is a douche. I care about what guys like Michael Sam say and do, and how younger gay people all over the world, from the US to Turkey, receive messages from gay people with experience like Michael Sam. 


Pope Francis and Kim Davis


Many will be surprised, but this one is simple for me. The Pope made a statement on his way back to Rome about how he believes people like Kim Davis should have the right to not hand out marriage licenses to gay people.

I can’t have in mind all cases that can exist about conscience objection. But, yes, I can say the conscientious objection is a right that is a part of every human right. It is a right. And if a person does not allow others to be a conscientious objector, he denies a right. Conscientious objection must enter into every juridical structure because it is a right, a human right. Otherwise we would end up in a situation where we select what is a right, saying ‘this right that has merit, this one does not.’ It is a human right, and if a government official is a human person, he has that right. 

This sent off tons of commentary about the Pope and Kim Davis.

For me it's as simple as this: the pope is a religious figure and in no way at all associated with anything civil. He should keep it that way in ALL respects.

You can check that out here. I think the comments are interesting...because I was raised Catholic and I know how the Catholic Church works. I never expected anything different from the Pope.

Side note: There's now a little vitriol going on right here in Philadelphia about the Pope's visit. Evidently, all that success you've been hearing about the Pope's visit is a lot of media hype. Except for the places where the Pope actually was, most people around here did not even go near Philadelphia. A lot of people who live in Philadelphia left town for a few days to avoid him. The mayor closed highways, bridges, and streets. They towed cars and turned lives upside down just for the Pope's visit. Restaurants and business owners who had planned for huge business saw no business at all. And now the mayor is blaming the local press for this poor turn out. When it was the mayor's office that created the entire nightmare in the first place. So there's that for the Pope's visit to Philadelphia. On a personal note, I had to drive to Philadelphia last Thursday and I expected horrible traffic. Guess what? Route 95 was a virtual parking lot. I was one of the few cars on the road and I've never seen it that empty in my entire life.

Here's something from the NY Post about that:

The mayor of Philadelphia says news reports about security measures that would be in place for Pope Francis’ visit may have deterred people from attending events over the weekend.

Mayor Michael Nutter used an expletive Monday when telling reporters they scared people from attending. He later apologized for what he called his “intemperate remark” and said he expected “a timely and terse” admonishment from his mother.

The press didn't scare me or anyone I know away. We just weren't that thrilled about the Pope. 

No Gay Sex For Sherlock Holmes and Watson

I have to admit that I know nothing at all about this topic...Sherlock Holmes. However, Martin Freeman replied this way about a possible love relationship between Holmes and Watson.

They’re not actually f***ing. It is possible for people of the same sex to have a deep friendship without being attracted to each other. People are attracted to each other in all sorts of ways. You don’t necessarily want to [sleep with] someone because you love them. They respect each other, they bring different things to their friendship… It’s a friendship. Way more has been made in the ether of that relationship than has ever been put in the show. The trouble is as soon as you start getting into a dialogue about that, it sounds like you‘re somehow being homophobic.”

And water is wet; fire is hot. 

Evidently, this statement comes as a result of some kind of fan-based wish that there should be more between Sherlock Holmes and Watson.

Here's the rest of this one, with comments. One fan seems to disagree. As they say in the UK with a phrase that I love, he thinks Holmes and Watson are shagging.

You know, all these people commenting are so damn excellent I think from now on I'll do a few posts just about the comments, not the articles. I usually get more from the comments anyway.

 
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Monday, September 28, 2015

A New Venture: Glendale E-Pub Services; Danny Pintauro's Oprah Interview; James Pianka's Underpants

A New Venture: Glendale E-Pub Services

When I first posted about getting into indie publishing here on the blog in March of 2012, I had no idea what to expect. Frankly, I wasn't even sure I really wanted to do it. At that point in time I was still heavily invested in working with e-publishers and I liked what I was doing. I had no complaints. It's just that I was curious about indie publishing.

However, not too long after that, one e-publisher I'd been working with for about ten years announced she was shuttering the press and reverting all rights back to authors. This floored me. I had over 40 titles with that publisher, I'd worked hard for them for years, and I didn't want my e-books to just disappear forever. I couldn't fault them for going out of business, but I wasn't going out of business and that sucked. So I republished them all as indie books and most of those books are still selling. And it was thanks to the experience I gained from publishing that first indie novel, Chase of a Lifetime. It was, indeed, a very humble venture.

In the past three years, indie publishing has allowed me the ability to take control of my work and experiment in ways no publisher would ever have allowed me to do. I've posted about how I've released one indie book in two versions: one with erotic sex scenes and one without sex scenes. I've also had other rights reverted with other books and I've been able to re-release them all as indie books so they don't disappear forever. In one case, I actually removed all the sex scenes because I was never happy with them and so far the most recent review seems to suggest I did the right thing in that case. Bottom line: I finally got to control my own work.

When e-publishing started out I don't think anyone ever thought their e-books would wind up being taken down and disappearing forever. I never expected to see that. I always thought that once an e-book had been published with a reputable publisher it had found a home forever. That's not the case anymore. I'm not even going to mention the e-publishers out there that have shuttered without even giving their authors advanced notice. One ran off to South Africa last I heard. Many authors haven't been paid, and some never will. It's been both sad and frustrating to watch so many authors left out in the proverbial cold with nowhere to turn.

I'm not anti-publisher and I still work with a few small e-presses. I have wonderful relationships with them and I hope that continues forever. This post isn't designed to knock anyone or to draw any conclusions. It's simply an announcement about another humble venture we are doing that may or may not help a few authors who are interested in indie publishing but don't know how to go about doing it...and without spending thousands of dollars to indie publish. You don't have to be a tech genius either. In the past year I've noticed more than a few authors who claimed they would never indie publish announce that they've changed their minds. In almost every case, it's for the same reasons I decided to indie publish.

In any event, here's a link to Glendale E-Pub Services. The web site has already been up for about a year but I haven't been actively promoting it because the goal is to keep it boutique...small. At this point, it's only us running things, with the help of a few sources I've worked with in the past with publishers. The clients we've worked with so far have all come through me, and they've been return clients who contact us months after publication to either publish something new or to make changes to something that already has been published. Yes. You can do that with e-books. If you don't like something about your book cover you can change that a few months later. You make your own rules this time and you control your own rights.

We're not a publishing company or a literary agency and we make no promises to sell, market, or promote books. Another reason we started Glendale is because I've seen far too many rip off e-publishing services that make claims I know they'll never be able to live up to. The author retains his/her rights and we're simply acting as a service...a means to get that e-book out there for you at an affordable cost. We focus only on e-books at this time because that seems to be where authors can save the most in up front costs, and because it's been my experience that e-books with regard to the indie markets usually bring in the best returns for authors. If someone else has had a different experience, good for you. We're not getting into print book publishing or audio book publishing simply because I've learned through working with e-publishers myself that print books and audio books don't sell as well as people would lead you to believe. If they did sell you'd see far more of them out there with small presses. It only stands to reason.

Everything you need to know is on the web site at the link above. You don't have to query us. We aren't judging anyone's work and everyone is welcome to contact us. We don't censor and your content is something you control, not us. In other words, we're not rejecting anyone on content. We're simply working on a first come first serve basis and everyone is welcome. What you publish, or what genre you are concentrated in, doesn't matter. We'll help authors e-publish anything from Christan self help books to the most erotic literature out there. If there are literary agents out there interested in getting client back list titles up in digital, we welcome them, too.

I'll post more about all this in the future from time to time. As I said, everything's fairly simple at the web site, and we're still working on it and making small changes as we go. I think every author's situation is unique and that's not something we take lightly. If you have any questions you can always e-mail me here: rfieldj@aol.com or contact us through the web site. Please make sure you put something in the subject line about Glendale E-publishing Services so I know it's not spam.

Danny Pintauro's Oprah Interview

Former childhood star, Danny Pintauro, came out as gay a while ago, but he recently did an interview with Oprah Winfrey and spoke openly about being HIV positive.

However, the 39-year-old’s secret which will likely have the bigger impact was saved for the broadcast when Pintauro shared that he tested positive for HIV 12 years ago.

“I was living in New York at the time and completely clueless to the idea that I was positive. I went in for a regular checkup. It was just regular blood work. You go in, and you sort of waited two weeks on pins and needles — or at least I did, because I was just terrified of the idea of getting HIV.”

There's a lot more to read, which you can do here.

The comments go even deeper than the interview. Some aren't too thrilled with the way Pintauro handles a few things. And you can't blame them. There are millions of gay men out there who have taken all the precautions and they aren't HIV positive. They deserve credit, too.

James Pianka's Underpants

Well, here's another thing I must have missed when I was absent from gay school that one day. It's about this dude I've never heard of...James Pianka...and his underpants. Yes, underpants. Or course it's an advertorial for "The Underwear Expert," so we aren't supposed to take it seriously. But I love the way they portray it as "gay" news...more tired cliche.

James Pianka models six pairs of casual underwear in our exclusive photoshoot below, each with simple and effective designs that stun without ever trying too hard. These underwear styles are more modern than the common boxer brief, and will always provide a more flattering fit, thanks to their silhouettes.

It's nice underwear. James Pianka has an ass. That's all you need to know.


You can get there from here.


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Saturday, September 26, 2015

Donald Trump on "Pharma Bro"; Sexy Guys On American Horror Story: Glendora Hill Series by Ryan Field

Donald Trump on "Pharma Bro"

This is about that hedge fund guy with the name I don't feel like spelling who purchased the patent to a drug used for AIDS related issues and he raised the price more than 5,000 per cent. Evidently, Donald Trump wasn't too thrilled with this guy's not so clever business move either.

Trump criticized the 32-year-old ex-hedge-funder-turned-pharmaceutical-price-gouger in the only way he knows how: By attacking his looks.

“You want to know the truth?” Trump said during a press conference this week. “He looks like a spoiled brat.”

Then he added that “hedge fund guys” like Shkreli will be the only people who see their taxes raised if he is elected president in 2016.

You can read the rest here. The comments, as expected, really go after Trump even though Trump seems to agree with everyone else about this guy. 

Sexy Guys On American Horror Story

Even though I had trouble getting through the first fifteen minutes of "Scream," I'm looking forward to the next American Horror Story season. The whole young mean girly thing in "Scream" really turned me off. According to this article there will be hot sexy men in American Horror Story. Thankfully, because if they were to open the season the same way "Scream"opened I'd be disappointed.

Hotels are sexy — on the Strip, Grand, or by the hour — so this 13-part tale set in a 1930s L.A. art-deco brick pile called the Cortez is already turning us on. Add Matt Bomer and we’re calling down for a late check-out because he definitely likes to cuddle.

The Cortez begins life in 1930, built by psychotic and brunette Evan Peters to accommodate his mass-murdering habit; in the present day, Lady Gaga freshens the place up with some Arne Jacobsen egg chairs and a menu of ancient blood virus. 


Evan Peters is back...I think he's adorable every season in every single thing he does. 

Glendora Hill Series by Ryan Field 

Here's an amazon link to all the books in the Glendora Hill series. They can also be purchased at other places like Smashwords and Allromanceebooks.com...even iTunes. 

And even though each book is a stand alone and you don't have to read them in order, here's the order in which they were written.

1. The Sheriff and the Cowboy

2. Cowboy Christmas Miracle

3. The Preacher's Husband

4. Too Hard to Handle

5. When a Man Loves a Man

I will release another book in the series before this year is over, or at the very least very soon into 2016.


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Friday, September 25, 2015

More On Stonewall Film; Stonewall Historian Speaks Out on "Stonewall"; 24 Year Old and Gay Sugar Daddy

More On Stonewall Film

This entire topic is tricky for me because there seem to be so many varying opinions. On the one hand there are LGBT people who claim Hollywood white-washed gay history, and on the other some claim they can't wait to see it because it's a gay film about Stonewall. In other words, they're excited about it because it's a gay film and they don't care whether or not it's accurate. I felt that way, too, at first...excited about it. 

This doesn't seem to be disappearing, which I thought it would. 

In any event, here's an article with more scathing reviews on Stonewall, the film. 

Rather than choose something debatable, the filmmakers created something definitively untrue. Rather than exploring the conflicting stories of what sparked the riot (was it Marsha P. Johnson’s shot glass, a high heel, a brick, or what?), which could have made for a fascinating formal exercise, they just credited the white guy. Rather than really examine Stonewall, a place obviously brimming with unheard stories of extreme living, Emmerich and company decided to center their narrative on a dude who drops by the bar a few times while floating through the city (only to settle uptown at Columbia when the summer ends). Imagine, just one time, an ensemble led by a character who isn’t white and “straight-acting.” Imagine people of color being used for more than just support.

You can read several more just like this, here.  

Frankly, at this point I'm more inclined to trust my fellow gay journalists, activists, and well informed reviewers and I won't be running to see Stonewall any time soon. And I rarely base my decision on reviewers.

If anyone does happen to see the film and they'd like to leave their well informed short review, feel free to comment. I would love to hear your thoughts, no matter what they are. I always post anon comments, too.

Stonewall Historian Speaks Out on "Stonewall"

In more Stonewall movie related news, a Stonewall historian is now speaking out.

And it was very disappointing to me to see the death and funeral of Judy Garland used yet again as part of an explanation for the Stonewall uprising. That has been thoroughly discredited by historical research. And this film is no credit to the history it purports to portray.”

You can read the whole thing here.

Seriously. How much more do you need to know? 

24 Year Old and Gay Sugar Daddy

Moving on to something much lighter, here's an article about a 24 year old straight guy and his rich sugar daddy. The 24 year old is open and honest about stating he's only in it for the money. He's also going to inherit the money when the older one is dead.

Do you have sex with each other?
Yes, we have sex.
Do you engage in one night stands with women?
Yeah, I can still hook up with women just so long as I don’t bring any home with me. So either at their place or a hotel or something.
What’s the point of getting married without a romantic connection?
You’d have to ask him I guess, since I’d ask what’s the point of a romantic connection in the first place. FWIW I kind of fake one for him, although he knows I’m faking.
Are you the top or bottom?
Usually I bottom but sometimes he wants me to fuck him.
No comment from me. You can read the rest here. 

 
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Would It Bother You If Toni Morrison Were A Straight, White Male? Sexy Hot Guys Over 50; Stonewall Riots 1969; Hillary Clinton's Discomfort With Gays

Would It Bother You If Toni Morrison Were A Straight White Male?

Of course that question is both hypothetical and rhetorical. I'm posting it because there's been a great deal of discussion in the m/m romance community about authors coming from places of privilege masquerading as gay men.

If you are straight and white, male or female, you're still coming from a place of privilege *compared* to anyone in the LGBTI community. I didn't say women don't have it harder than men. They do and I've always supported them. I said "compared" to anyone in the LGBTI community. Before you get into that debate with anyone, remember we were just allowed to legally marry a few months ago and that controversy is still happening. They are still kicking us out of restaurants and bars.

Toni Morrison is one of the most prominent, respected authors in the African American community and the entire literary community. I've read all her books more than once. She's really who she says she is. She's not a fake. People have seen her. 

I'm not talking about a straight white male writer using the pen name, Toni Morrison. I'm not talking about a straight female author openly using a pen name in the m/m romance genre. There are many authors using pen names and they're doing a fine job at it, especially the women writing gay romances.

This is not about pen names.

I'm talking about what if a straight white male used the fictitious name and fictitious identity of an African American woman to portray himself to the public for praise and monetary gain?

I'm not talking about his writing, or whether or not his books are good. Clearly, Toni Morrison's books are wonderful.

Hypothetically, I'm talking about how you would feel if you found out Toni Morrison were really a straight white male after all this time.

Would you be thrilled with him?  

Sexy Hot Guys Over 50

This is great article because it diminishes that ridiculous stigma all gay men face about getting older, and it does it with excellent examples. Personally, I've always been more attracted to men over 40...even when I was in my twenties. Of course there's nothing wrong with twinks either.

The “Men Over 50 Project” celebrates hot everyday guys who have made it past the big 5-0. The project features both photos of the men as well as accompanying one to two minute audio clips.

You can check out the photos of hot guys here. 

Don't forget, hot guys over 50 take you out to nice places in nice cars, not to the flea market or Walmart. And unless you're doing something wrong, they usually pay.

Stonewall Riots 1969

Here's an article about the Stonewall riots and about what life was like for gays back then. I think it's significant, given the huge discussion that's been sparked by the new film release, Stonewall.  We have fought long and hard and I think we're just beginning to realize that. In other words, many are saying don't screw around with our history or our culture through your appropriation for monetary gain. Give us the respect we deserve just as you'd give any other minority.

This alone is gutting: 

Forty-five years ago here is what you could expect as an LGBT person in the United States :
  • Your name (along with all of your friends and family members) would be put on a list by the Federal Bureau of Investigation, because as a homosexual you were ?prone? to blackmail and "overt acts of perversion"
  • The United States Post Office also kept your name on a list to monitor any homosexual "paraphernalia" you were receiving so they could tip off the police and have you arrested


 You can read the rest here.  

I'm going to continue to post about Stonewall in gay history as I see more information. I honestly don't know much about it, or what things were like back then, but I never take anything for granted.

Hillary Clinton's Discomfort With Gays

Now this I do know about. As a registered Democrat, I've been watching it for many years. I've watched Clinton turn from a silent non-supporter of gays to a huge supporter when the time and opportunity suited her. She's a politician and I expect that.

The quotes date back to 2000, when Hillary was running for the senate in NY. Allegedly, a historian did tons of interviews with Bill Clinton about the Clinton White House and this all allegedly came out during the discussions.

Bill Clinton warned a close friend in 2000 that Hillary’s New York Senate run could suffer because she was not “comfortable around gay people who were kind of acting out, or pushing her to the limit,” and that she had a “general discomfort” around gay rights issues.

And then this quote:

 “[Bill] came in and he said, ‘You know I’ve had much more contact in my life with gay people than Hillary has,’” Branch says in the audio recording. “He said, ‘I think she’s really a little put off by some of this stuff.’”

Here's the source. It's a long article that gets a little annoying in the end, considering the source. But the comments are interesting. As one person pointed out, virtually no one supported gay marriage in the late nineties. The saddest part of all this is when I realize that straight people, human beings, actually had to "evolve" to a point in time for when they thought I was ready to deserve the same equal rights as everyone else.

So, you had to "evolve." Well, thanks for that. But I don't think you get extra points for "evolving" on an issue that I should have had all along. The same equal rights as everyone else. I'm just not that gay guy who is going to praise you for "evolving" so well. I think a few apologies are in order, not pats on the back for evolving.

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Thursday, September 24, 2015

"Straight-Acting" Characters In Stonewall Movie; NYT E-Book Article; Cultural Appropriation of Trolling

Straight-Acting Characters In Stonewall Movie

Let me begin by stating I haven't seen the film, Stonewall, and I don't know much about the actual events of the Stonewall riots. How could I? Everyone seems to be at odds with the topic. Tomorrow I'll post a few things about the Stonewall riots.

I've posted before about how so many are livid because they think Stonewall, as a film, is white-washing LGBT history and hurting LGBT culture. Now that kind of thing I have seen before, many times. I've seen the cultural appropriation of LGBT people masked in so many ways for monetary gain I don't think it's possible to list them all.  

In any event, I don't want to get off topic. The Stonewall director recently came out with a few comments during an interview that have people even more livid, if that's possible.

"You have to understand one thing: I didn’t make this movie only for gay people, I made it also for straight people,” he said. “I kind of found out, in the testing process, that actually, for straight people, [Danny] is a very easy in. Danny’s very straight-acting. He gets mistreated because of that. [Straight audiences] can feel for him.”

You can read the rest here.  The comments are very fascinating.

And here's an excerpt from a scathing review in Vanity Fair. I'm not the biggest fan of Vanity Fair but the review does seem to relay the message gay people are trying to get out there.

Turns out, Stonewall is perhaps even worse than some feared it would be—more offensive, more white-washed, even more hackishly made. It’s so bad that it’s hard to know where to begin a catalogue of the film’s sins. 

You can read more of that here.  

My only comment is that I've also read that Stonewall is a dramatization, which coming from a writer's POV means that it's been embellished...larger than life. Because that's what a dramatization is, larger than life. This certainly is not the first time in the history of anything or anyone that a dramatization has misplaced the facts...or twisted and turned them completely around for monetary gain. So in all fairness to Stonewall, there's that to consider. You're not supposed to take it seriously. You're only supposed to be entertained by it the same way you were entertained by Gone With the Wind.

NYT E-Book Article

The other day on Twitter I saw where someone tweeted, "Do people still read magazines and newspapers?" She was going for a laugh with that one.

Well, some still do. I think a good part of that is generational. The only magazine I get now is Architectural Digest and I'm thinking about reading that online, too, next year. However, I haven't read a print newspaper in years now. I get my news online: local, national, and international.

I have a rental apartment and my newest tenant doesn't even write checks anymore. He doesn't have checks. He's paperless. He's got a great job and an excellent credit rating. And he does everything online. You won't see a newspaper or magazine in his apartment either. Again, generational.

So this article about e-books in the NYT doesn't surprise me, considering the source. What's even more interesting is that even though the article talks about print books making this huge comeback, it changes course in the end. In fact, I don't think I've seen an argument implode quite like this in a long time.

It is also possible that a growing number of people are still buying and reading e-books, just not from traditional publishers. The declining e-book sales reported by publishers do not account for the millions of readers who have migrated to cheap and plentiful self-published e-books which often cost less than a dollar. 

Well, we all know how much it costs to produce an e-book. There are no returns with e-books, and pre-ordering an e-book is complete waste of time. So it stands to reason that traditional publishing is going to fight to hold on to what they have for as long as they can. Of course many of us have rebelled against that with big trad publishers and we've found indie authors and digital only publishers with great books that we love just as much at a fraction of the cost...fairly priced e-books. 

You can read the rest here. Frankly, I'm not sure what's going to happen with e-books or print books. I do think that print books will survive, for a period of time, with a certain generation. However, I also know they'll have to rip my iPad and iPhone libraries out of my cold dead hands before I go back to reading print books ever again.

For anyone who disagrees with me I'd like to ask... Would you take your life savings and invest it in a brick and mortar book store where only print books are sold?

Cultural Appropriation of Trolling

Here's a link to a blog post by someone who is a hybrid author, a blogger, and a former literary agent with Curtis Brown. I think I've been following him since the first day he started to blog. If you follow publishing blogs you may have read Bransford before. He's been around for a while and has a large following in the book community.

I'll admit that I've focused more on LGBT issues in the past few years and haven't posted much about publishing. And I'll continue to focus on LGBT issues in the future. I grew jaded with publishing and with the e-book vs print book debate, and even more jaded with the poor information we've been getting from so-called publishing professionals, especially literary agents. Or, in some cases, lack of information. However, when I read this blog post by Bransford I thought I'd pass it because it's a different kind of cultural appropriation than what I usually post about, and it's publishing related. 

It's why I find Kanye West's much-lampooned video for Bound 2 hilarious, which consists almost entirely of him riding a motorcycle with a naked Kim Kardashian in front of images of iconic American landscape, including stampeding white horses in slow motion. He even premiered it on the Ellen DeGeneres show for some reason. You can almost hear Kanye's challenge to America -- you know this is what you want, you know you will eat this up.

This has nothing to do with whether or not you like Kanye. Bransford also presents another example with Jonathan Franzen. Again, they are examples.

You can read it in full here. I'm not going to comment or try to explain the post. It's worth reading in full and you'll just have to trust me on that. But more important, every single time I see an author on social media heading into some kind of huge drama designed to get attention so he or she can remain relevant, I'm going to think about this post...and I'm going to smile.

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Wednesday, September 23, 2015

Kim Davis and Marriage Tampering; Man Smashes Gay Advertisement; Five Things to Watch With Pope's Visit

Kim Davis And Marriage License Tampering

I know some people on social media are tired of hearing about Kim Davis. I'm sick of her name, too. However, this is important to the gay people who have to deal with her and the marriage licenses that come from her office, so you'll just have to skip this part if you aren't interested in the latest game she allegedly pulled...or tried to pull.

I think it's newsworthy.

In short, it's being alleged that she changed the marriage license formatting for a specific purpose. Attorneys for the ACLU want the original license format returned.

On Friday, the lawyer for Deputy Clerk Brian Mason, who has been issuing licenses since Davis was jailed, told the court Davis confiscated the licenses upon her return and gave him a document that removed references to Rowan County and Davis' office and required him to list his title as a notary public.

The changes run afoul of Bunning's order, the filing by the lawyers for the plaintiffs said. At the minimum, she has created considerable uncertainty for marriage applicants about their licenses and subsequent marriages, the filing said.

You can read the rest here.  

Man Smashes Gay Advertisement

This one, at the very least, is honest. This older straight guy without teeth who sounds like Carol Channing went berserk on a public street when he saw an ad with two gay men embracing in a photo.

Evidently, he hated the gay ad so much he decided to destroy it, while proudly being filmed.

Below, watch this reported father of nine (dental insurance must be out of the question with nine mouths to feed) make his case for destroying public property (spoiler alert: his argument is “I don’t have to put up with this!” because of the first amendment, duh):

You can watch the video here.

Five Things to Watch With Pope's Visit

Where I live in New Hope, PA we're basically an hour from Philadelphia and an hour from New York City. However, we are considered part of the northern Philadelphia suburbs and we get mostly Philadelphia news. When I tell you that the city of Philadelphia has gone completely out of its way to prepare for the papal visit I'm not exaggerating. Major bridges have been shut down, schools are all closed, cars are being towed, and many are leaving the city for a few days to avoid all the unbelievable chaos.

It's a huge event and I think a lot of people are watching this particular Pope for many reasons. One of which has to do with the LGBT community. So here are five things they say we should be watching.

Does the pope keep Philadelphia Archbishop Charles Chaput at arms’ length? Chaput is one of the most homophobic bishops in the U.S. hierarchy, which is quite a statement, given the competition near and far. Chaput is hosting Francis’s visit to the City of Brotherly Love and made sure that the only gay within sight is one who is celibate. The bishop ensured that there was zero LGBT representation in conference about families leading up to the pontiff’s trip. The question is whether Francis will rebuke, gently or otherwise, the hard-line tactics of Chaput or send a signal that he wants a less rigid approach.

I've watched Chaput on Philadelphia news supporting everything that would be considered anti-gay, anti-equal rights, and anti-civil liberties. So I think it is important to see what kind of connection he has with the Pope.

And then again, after 12 years of Catholic school I know it all too well. So don't expect too much from this Pope. He's the Pope and he doesn't make the rules alone.

You can read the other four things here. They actually do make sense this time.

 
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Tuesday, September 22, 2015

Margie Winters Meets the Pope; Homophobic Bar Owner; James Franco As the Mean Girl

Margie Winters Meets the Pope

I had a completely different post for today, however, this is far more important. When I first posted about Margie Winters I felt discouraged about her situation and I thought it would wind up crashing and burning like so many other situations where innocent gay Catholic School teachers have been fired because they got married. Even though I've been following the story on social media all this time, I haven't posted much about it because, again, I didn't think it would go anywhere. And my Facebook followers don't seem as interested in stories like this anymore. You can tell.

I felt even more discouraged when I saw on Facebook that people were making pleas for Pope Francis to meet with Margie Winters when he comes to Philadelphia this month. I know all too well how the Catholic Church operates. I was raised Catholic and went through 12 years of Catholic school. And when I first heard about Margie Winters actually meeting the Pope in Philadelphia I just shrugged and thought, "Yeah, like that's going to happen."

In any event, this is the latest news about Margie Winters meeting Pope Francis. Evidently, President Obama has invited Winters to the White House to help welcome Pope Francis, in person. I don't know the full back story...or how President Obama found out about Margie...but I think it's one of the most significant moves the President has made while he's been in office, for LGBT people. It appears he's sending a message to the Pope, in a very polite dignified way.  Here's the source.

The 50-year-old Winters says she lost her job this year at a private Catholic grade school outside Philadelphia over her 2007 same-sex marriage.
Thousands of people from diverse social and religious backgrounds are expected to attend the welcoming ceremony Wednesday on the South Lawn.
Winters hopes to get a chance to speak to the pope. She would ask him to extend his message of inclusion to gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender Catholics.
She says her invitation came through the Human Rights Campaign, an LGBT advocacy group.

Homophobic Bar Owner

Yesterday I posted about a bar owner, Pam Griffin, and the two gay men who were allegedly kicked out of her bar for kissing. Here's a follow up. Keep in mind, they were only kissing like straight people kiss all the time.

A Fayetteville, North Carolina bar owner who kicked a gay couple out because of public displays of affection says she is getting threats from “coast to coast” via social media because of her actions.

Or at least that’s how the local media is covering the story.

Long-time Fayetteville resident Dustin Baker and his visiting boyfriend Andrew Deras decided to hit up Louie’s Sports Pub for a few drinks and to catch the live band.

You can read the rest here, where there is a photo of the bar owner and the two men she kicked out of the bar.

I have a feeling we'll be hearing more about this. There are comments, too.

James Franco As the Mean Girl

Of course James Franco is back in the news with something LGBT related. It's not actually LGBT. It's just slightly LGBT related because he does a mean girl in the old wild west in drag. You have to see him in drag.

The hit series Gossip Girl ended its run in 2012, but to James Franco it’s timeless. The ever-busy entertainer transports the storyline of the popular Manhattan-set show to the Old West and in the process makes a fetching, if incredibly bitchy saloon gal.

Actually, Franco's doing this for his AOL Making a Scene series, and this time I love what Franco's doing with that series.

But more than that, Franco winds up looking way too hot in the corset and I'm not sure he even realizes how hot.

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Monday, September 21, 2015

Gay Life On Campus; Gay Days At Disney; Five Things Gays Hate

Gay Life On Campus

I always wonder about this, because when I was in college there was no gay life on campus. In fact, I don't think there ever was gay life on most campuses until fairly recently. That's not to say there weren't gay people. I can't speak for lesbians, but the gay guys found ways to meet each other through the typical cruising venues and gay bars...and also the men's room.


In any event, this piece I'm linking to now talks about what campus life is like for gay freshmen now...I think openly gay and those still in the closet. It's one of those meme things I love so much, where they ask gay men questions and the guys answer in one or two lines.

This one shows not all that much has changed.

Being gay in college sucks. It's appropriate for a guy to flirt with a girl, but it's taboo for a guy to flirt with another guy. 

This next one just about sums it all up for me when I was in college. 

Freshman in college and just realized I'm gay. Probably going to nap this day away.

Well, there you are. Now tell me how we don't have to fight any longer with gay marriage being legal.

You can read the rest here. 

Gay Days At Disney

I try to post something about this every year, because I think it's important to gay people in general, and for the many gay people who have, or are starting, families of their own.

For one weekend this fall — October 2-4, to be specific — the happiest place on earth becomes one the gayest places on the planet. That’s when thousands of LGBT revelers walk through the gates of the Magic Kingdom transforming Disneyland into a landscape of red T-shirts. Since 1998 when it was organized by Eddie Shapiro and Jeffrey Epstein (who also coauthored the guide book Queens in the Kingdom), the annual event Gay Days Anaheim has drawn many thousands of fairy tale fans to the amusement park to thrill to both the exhilarating rides and the exciting parties. Shapiro, who now produces the weekend solo,  chatted with Queerty about how Gay Days has evolved over the years, what he has planned for guests next month and how to maximize your pleasure during the weekend.

You can check out the rest here.

Five Things Gays Hate by Graham Gremore

When I'm getting these blog posts ready to publish, I often find I have to re-read certain things...or I blink a few times. To put this kindly, I made a point of mentioning the author of the article by name because he repeatedly posts in generalities like this.

And most people don't really know how diversified the gay male community is. I think articles like this do us a disservice. One because it's not funny enough to be humor or sarcasm, which I love if it's done right. Two, because there are people out there who take things like this seriously. Three, because it pits one gay man against another.

Here's one of the things gay men allegedly hate...allegedly:

Frat Boys

We hate them because of what they represent: heterosexism, elitism, douchebaggery, etc. We denounce their lack of proper hygiene, their terrible sense of style, their ill manners. Yet at the same time we love them because they’re kinda hot and because, even though they’re probably pretty sloppy and selfish in the sack, we still kinda sorta want to hook up with them, even if just for the bragging rights.

I don't hate frat boys. None of the gay men I know hate frat boys. I don't hate anything else on that list either. If I were to waste my time hating anything or anyone, I would hate guys like Graham Gremore for writing content like this. Even if this is an attempt at humor, it's a huge fail.

And someone should tell him.


You can read the rest here. The comments are mixed, and I get that. They should be mixed, because we are such a diverse community.

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Saturday, September 19, 2015

North Carolina Bar Throws Out Gay Couple; Greg Louganis 30 Years Post Wheaties Snub; Rapper Slams Caitlyn Jenner

North Carolina Bar Throws Out Gay Couple

In Fayetteville, NC, there's a bar that threw a gay couple out and the owner is now receiving backlash...from all over the country. What actually happened isn't totally clear yet. 

According to the two guys...


‘He put his arm around me, he gave me a kiss, and she said this wasn’t right, this wasn’t OK,’ said Deras, who was visiting from California. ‘She threatened both of us. He gave me a kiss. It was very minor. It was just a peck. It was two seconds.’

The owner, Pam Griffin, claims otherwise...


‘I walked up to them calmly. I asked them guys, you know, can you kind of just separate, kind of move apart?’

She told WRAL News, ‘I don’t care if you stay and drink. We don’t need to be doing that, and just calm down because you’re making people feel uncomfortable.’

She said they then laughed and gave each other another ‘big kiss.’

Then it all devolved into an ugly scene from there. Would Ms. Griffin have reacted that way to a straight couple? Would she have claimed that customers were complaining? It think that makes a big difference. However, we're talking about a bar. And a bar is a bar. It's not a church.

Greg Louganis 30 Years Post Wheaties Snub

Openly gay Olympic swimmer, Greg Louganis, seems to be reaching out to the Wheaties people about putting his image on the box.  

‘To simply be here, living my life as my true self is rewarding enough,’ Louganis writes in a newWhoSay column. ‘However, I feel like I owe this box to my friends, family, and fans that have been cheering me on for decades. Sure, the Wheaties cover would have been cool in 1984… but after all we’ve been through, it would be even more iconic now.’

At the time, 30 years ago, it's alleged they didn't want his image on the box because of gay rumors that were circulating. 

You can read the rest here. He goes on to talk about how far we've come and how much has changed.

And for the people at Wheaties...in case you're not interested in Louganis. I'm free. Hell, that's not only a great message there's a lot of money involved in a deal like that. I love Wheaties more than Nutella, I run five miles every single morning, I work out regularly, and I'll do it for half the money of what Louganis wants...and I'll put that in writing. (Smile)

Rapper Slams Caitlyn Jenner

There's this rapper that claims Caitlyn Jenner is "An Affront to God."

The rapper's name is  Waka. Flocka. Flame.

That's really all you need to know...yes, Waka. Flocka. Flame. 

But there's this:

It’s like, it’s not cool, they’re not marketing that. They don’t market families and husbands and wives no more. They marketing young girls, you know what I’m saying? Transgenders — they’re marketing evil, man.’



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