Sunday, November 19, 2017

Jeffrey Tambor Leaves Transparent; The Private Lives of Mostly Straight Men; Mother Flawless Sabrina Passes Away

Jeffrey Tambor Leaves Transparent

I'm really starting to hate posting about these things...but it's news. And I do think that Transparent will continue without Tambor. The cast is fantastic, the story lines are strong, and the characters are likable.

EXCLUSIVE: Facing two accusations of sexual harassment by members of theTransparent team that he has strongly denied, Jeffrey Tambor today has decided not to return to the Amazon series.

Here's the rest.

The Private Lives of Mostly Straight Men

This one is about sexual fluidity. Don't worry. I don't totally understand it either. But it's interesting.

“To the uninitiated, mostly straight may seem paradoxical. How can a man be mostly heterosexual?” Savin-Williams writes in an article published by TIME. “Yet the evidence suggests that more young men identify or describe themselves as ‘mostly straight’ than identify as either bisexual or gay combined.”

Here's more. The comments go into a lot more detail.

Mother Flawless Sabrina Passes Away

This was sad to read...

Mother Flawless Sabrina, a drag icon and LGBTI rights trailblazer, passed away on Friday 17 November at age 78.

You can check it out, here. There are photos, and it goes into more detail about the hey days of drag and drag pageants. New Hope, PA, where I live, was huge on the drag circuit from what I hear. I missed all that, but I love when my older friends tell stories about the old days. Especially now since we're losing so much of our gay culture as each day passes.

In fact, I think the saddest part of all about losing our gay culture is that straight people don't even know we have our own culture, with roots that go as far back as Mother Flawless Sabrina. They don't have the slightest clue. That's sad.

RIP, Mother Flawless Sabrina

 Said With Care

A PG Rated Gay Romance

Saturday, November 18, 2017

More About Feminine Gay Men; HIV Undetectable Men Speak Out; A Massive Navy Phallus In the Sky

More About Feminine Gay Men

Here's another story about the issues feminine gay men deal with all the time. There was a survey done recently (that I posted about last week) that stated over 70% of gay men are turned off by feminine gay men. And a UK blogger decided to address the issue with this...

The concept of masculinity, like most labels, is a bit of an outdated construct that makes people feel alienated and bad about themselves when they don’t fit the mold.
I personally think it’s far more attractive when somebody accepts, loves and owns who they are, rather than portraying a faux masculinity they’ve adopted to appeal to the masses. The irony is, pretending to be someone you’re not isn’t masculine at all. In fact, it takes far bigger balls to learn to love your genuine self.
Here's the rest. I think he hits on some interesting points. I've even talked about this topic at length in my recent novel, Kendle's Fire. And I'm going to shamelessly plug it right now because I think it's that important...for all men, gay and straight. 

A PG Rated Gay Romance

Even though Kendle is an openly gay ex-Marine, he's been questioning his masculinity all of his life. He's always been what people expect a man to be, in spite of the fact that he's never been completely comfortable living up to these expectations.
He also has a few secrets. The kind of secrets a man can only talk about with the most intimate people in his life. One of those people is his best friend and part time lover, Dale. And their relationship is not without a few unusual quirks and ironies either, especially when it comes to the way Kendle explains his relationship with Dale to his own parents. 
After a string of bad career decisions and awkward mistakes, it's not until Kendle meets a young guy named Walter that his life begins to come together. It's a journey filled with as much joy as heartbreak, with a few bittersweet twists in between. As Kendle opens himself up to new possibilities, he finds himself in the midst of life altering changes that leave him devastated. And there's a point where he's not sure he can get through any of it.

HIV Undetectable Men Speak Out

When it comes to HIV, there are a lot of people out there who don't know what "undetectable" means, so these HIV positive guys are trying to clarify it. It's an important message.

“We’ve seen major campaigns talking about how people living with HIV and on effective treatment cannot pass on the virus. And this has been wonderful. But many gay and bisexual men are not hearing this message, and if they are, it’s not sticking. This is why we created the video. We wanted to use real people, who are living with HIV and are undetectable, to break down step-by-step what exactly being HIV-undetectable is.”

You can check out the video here. 

A Massive Navy Phallus In the Sky

A huge outline of a penis showed up in the sky earlier this week (literally), and it's been making the news ever since. 

The atmospheric penis was drawn by U.S. Navy pilots using an EA-18G Growler with Electronic Attack Squadron 130, also known as “The Zappers.”
“The Navy holds its aircrew to the highest standards and we find this absolutely unacceptable, of zero training value and we are holding the crew accountable,” the Navy told KREM.
There's more, here. It's actually an excellent rendition.

 Said With Care

Friday, November 17, 2017

FREE Gay Excerpt: Altered Parts by Ryan Field; Paris LGBT Archive Center; Jeffrey Tambor Denies 2nd Harassment Claim; Upcoming SCOTUS Discrimination/Wedding Cake Case

Paris LGBT Archie Center

This is encouraging. You don't see much about LGBT history anywhere other than the Internet.

Paris is planning to open an LGBT archive center in the city by 2020.
According to The Art Newspaper, it will document the country’s LGBT movement from the 1960s onward.

Jeffrey Tambor Denies 2nd Harassment Claim
There was another accusation for sexual harassment thrown at Transparent star, Jeffrey Tambor. 
Amazon is investigating Tambor already, as his former assistant and trans actress Van Barnes accused him of behaving inappropriately around her.

Upcoming SCOTUS Discrimination/Wedding Cake Case
You won't see a lot about this trending on social media these days, but it's actually something we should all be paying attention to. The outcome could be critical to all minorities. 
Next month, Masterpiece Cakeshop v. Colorado Civil Rights Commission arrives at the Supreme Court of the United States. It’s the most crucial case for LGBTQ rights since the legalization of marriage equality in 2015.
This is the one about the baker who wouldn't make a wedding cake for a gay couple because he believed it was against his religion. It's a short article and it goes into more detail, and talks about free speech and discrimination. You can check that out here. 
FREE Gay Excerpt: Altered Parts by Ryan Field 
Here's another short excerpt from my newest release, Altered Parts. The book is set in a rural area of 1940s North Carolina. 
It took a moment or two to start the old car, but once the motor turned over we cheered and he punched me in the arm. I knew it was his way of showing affection without actually being affectionate and I said nothing. I turned the wheel, headed down the dirt drive, and toward a road that would lead us up to the highest point on Buddy's Mountain.
I hadn't been up to the top of the mountain in about a year. We used to go up there all the time when I was younger and my aunts had more energy. Back when my grandfather had still been alive every single family holiday and summer event had been held up there. We'd gather in a gazebo my grandfather had built years earlier, for long picnics that often lasted well into the evening hours.
As we climbed to the top in the old car that day, I'd forgotten how intimidating the old dirt road could be. It wrapped around the edge of the mountain, without a fence or guardrail, and one wrong move on my part would have sent us both plunging thousands of feet to our deaths. I gripped the steering wheel tighter and leaned forward a little. And while I never took my eyes off the road for longer than a second, Clay stared out through the passenger window gaping at the view.
"I've never seen anything like this before," he said. "It's fantastic. Everything is so green."
I smiled. I kept my eyes focused on the road and said, "The height doesn't bother you at all?"
"Hell, no," he said. "The higher the better. I love looking down. It gives me a thrill up my leg. Does it bother you?"
I gulped. "Let's just say I'm always glad when we reach the top of the mountain and I'm on solid ground. I just don't like being this close to the edge."
"You're doing just fine. Stop worrying so much. The road is wide enough for a huge truck, it's very smooth, and you're just thinking about it in an exaggerated way. Trust me, you're okay."
"That's easy for you to say. You weren't raised by two spinster aunts who wanted to prepare you for all the terrible, awful things that can happen in life. Trust me, they left nothing out."
This time he looked away from the view and frowned. "At least you have them. You're lucky. It's a lot more than I had."
After he said that, I wanted to find out more about his upbringing, but we had just reached the top of the mountain and he kept looking around with such wide eyes I figured I would save the deep conversation for a later date.
The moment I pulled up next to a large rock that wasn't too far from the family gazebo, even before I turned off the motor, he jumped out of the car and ran to the edge of the cliff. I watched as he stood there with his hands on his hips and his long legs spread apart. I climbed out of the car and started toward him, noticing he looked as good from the back as he did from the front. His expression appeared so animated and thrilled with excitement I enjoyed watching his impressions of the mountain more than I enjoyed the mountain itself. I'd grown up there. I knew every inch of that mountain, including the views. It's not that I didn't love it, but seeing it all through Clay's eyes made me feel as though I was seeing for the first time as well.
I walked up to where he was standing at the edge of the cliff and said, "I sometimes forget how beautiful it is up here."
Without looking back, he said, "It's the most fantastic view I've ever seen. It's so green. Where I come from everything's so different. It's nice, and the sky is huge, but it's not as interesting as all this. It feels so safe and comfortable, and I'm not sure where to look first."
I smiled and tapped his shoulder. "Then follow me. I know a spot where the views are even better than this."
He turned and said, "You lead the way."
As we headed in the other direction, he asked about the large building in the distance. It resembled a log cabin, but massive in size. I told him my grandfather had built it there years earlier as his workshop. My grandfather's hobby had always been furniture making and many referred to him as an artisan. His designs had always been classic with a modern edge. He'd designed and built the entire log structure himself over a period of four years, and barely had enough time to build any furniture in it before he died. He’d built most of his designs in the old workshop near the house. We had a few pieces of his work in the main house, and the rest were sold at auction to collectors. He didn't have grand international fame as a furniture designer, but he did have a following among people who were familiar with the art of that region. My aunts devoted a section of the library in the house to articles written about him, and books that had mentioned him.
Clay followed me up a narrow trail to a huge old oak tree that had probably been growing there for generations. Years before I was born my grandfather and father used to go up to the mountain to hunt for food and they'd built a tree house up in that old oak tree where they could sit quietly and wait for deer to show up. My aunts never went up there and they'd never had any interest in hunting. I didn't go up there often either because it wasn't much fun alone.
I lead him around to the other side of the oak tree where a ladder had been built. I gestured to the ladder first and said, "After you."
He climbed to the top and I followed, taking each step as quickly and unplanned as everything else we'd done that day. It amazed me how being with Clay changed everything so much. It felt as if all the things I'd known all my life suddenly took on new meanings and nothing felt mundane anymore. Even that old tree house in the oak tree felt newer and more vibrant.
After he paced the small platform a few times praising the view, we sat down on the old weathered wooden planks and settled our backs up against the tree trunk. He stretched his long legs, crossed his feet, and removed his cowboy hat. Before I even had a chance to get totally comfortable he started asking me about my past and my upbringing and I told him a quick version of how I'd lost my parents and how I'd been raised by my aunts. My story wasn't all that interesting. My parents had been killed in a car accident and I'd been raised by my aunts. I was only an infant at the time of my parents' death so I had no stories to tell about them at all. And most of the stories my aunts told were stories about themselves. They been competing to see who had the most interesting past since the day they been born and I wasn't going to bore Clay with that time Aunt Ted lost her new purse at the church picnic.
 When I finally finished talking, I turned and asked, "What about you? You haven't said much about your past at all. All I know is that you're from Wyoming, you're heading to Florida on foot, and that you were raised on a ranch with cowboys."
He sighed and rested his hands behind his neck. He uncrossed his feet and spread his legs wide. "There's not much to tell. I had an older brother who died when he was eight years old. I never knew him. My parents had me a year after he died. When I was 10 years old, my mother died after a long illness. I only remember her being sick. I've never been sure what that illness was, but she suffered a lot. I remember her crying out in pain in the front parlor. They'd set up a bed for her in the front parlor to make it easier."
"I'm sorry," I said. "That must have been hard on you and your father."
"Oh, don't worry about my father," Clay said. His voice took on a bitter tone. "He knew what he was doing. While my mom was dying, her sister…Aunt Mary…came to live with us so she could take care of my mom and us. Well Aunt Mary wound up taking better care of my dad than anyone else, if you get my drift. And the month after my mother died my father married Aunt Mary."
"No they didn't."
"Oh yes they did," he said. "I was very young, but I was old enough to understand and to resent Aunt Mary and my father for what had happened. I caught them kissing once in the kitchen while my mother was dying in the front parlor. They didn't know I caught them and I never said anything, but I never gave them an ounce of love or respect again. I closed myself off completely. After my mother died, Aunt Mary moved right into her bedroom with my father and she took over. So I learned how to take care of myself. I spent most of my time on the ranch with the cowboys. I only had limited interaction with my aunt and father, and by the time I was 17 my father died suddenly. They said it was his heart."
"What happened to your Aunt Mary?"
He shrugged. "She was his wife. She inherited everything and she had total control over me. My father left me with nothing. I finally reached a point where I couldn't take it anymore so I left. I just picked up one day, started walking, and I never looked back. I had no reason to stay. I owned nothing, I despise Aunt Mary, and there was no other family. That's why I'm heading toward Florida. I figure if I'm going to join the military I might as well do it in a place that looks like fun."

Thursday, November 16, 2017

Hunger Games' Josh Hutcherson Goes Full Frontal Male Nudity and It's HUGE; Bella Thorne On Lil Peeps Sudden Death; Politician Explains Gay Porn On His Twitter

Hunger Games' Josh Hutcherson Goes Full Frontal Male Nudity and It's HUGE

There's a new Hulu series out titled, Future Man. I don't know much about it, but it seems to be getting a lot of attention because of this:

The show, which premiered Wednesday evening, features Josh Hutcherson flopping around with a clearly prosthetic piece of manhood. (At least we’re assuming it’s prosthetic since it looks like it couldn’t adequately fit into a pair of sweat pants.)

There's a link with this article that I'm linking to that will lead you to a few photos. That thing is HUGE, and there's this heavy patch of black fur all around it that might even make you chortle. 

You can check it all out here. The premise of the series actually sounds pretty good, though. This episode has something to do with time travel and swapping penises. So it sounds as if the full frontal nudity coincides with the story line. And if that's what they did, I'm glad. I've never forgiven that HBO TV series titled, Hung, where they never once showed you just how hung the character was. 

Bella Thorne On Lil Peeps Sudden Death

I've always been a rap fan, and this really sadden me. 21 year old rapper, known as Lil Peep, passed away suddenly and so many people are reacting to it.

 Bella Thorne's response to Lil Peep's death shows the devastation she feels, and her overall loss for words rings true for many people who have experienced a tragic, unexpected loss.

That's still a baby...21. May he RIP.

You can read the rest here. 

Politician Explains Gay Porn On His Twitter

Let's get this out of the way right up front. I follow gay porn people on my Twitter. I also follow priests, and I even follow one nun. My Twitter feed is where I gather information and try to learn about what's going on, and for me that encompasses everything. I even follow inspirational tweeps. However, I'm not a politician, nor do I ever want to be a politician.

With that said, a high ranking politician in Australia is now claiming that his Twitter account was hacked, and that's why it says he "liked" a tweet published by these gay porn people. According to him, he had nothing to do with liking gay porn.

Pyne insists there’s been some kind of mistake, however, falling back on the “I’ve been hacked!” defense.

You can check this out here. There's the expected screen shot of the tweet. 

We really are living in puritanical times. 

Altered Parts

Kendle's Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance

Said With Care

Wednesday, November 15, 2017

Australia's Next Step Toward Legal Same Sex Marriage; Bad Boy Billionaire Series by Ryan Field; The Revealing Photo Of James Franco's Instagram

Australia's Next Step Toward legal Same Sex Marriage

Contrary to what you might have seen on Zuckerberg's Facebook today, same sex marriage in Australia is NOT legal yet. And I think it's important to point that out. Otherwise we're doing a huge disservice to LGBT+ people in Australia. The fight for same sex marriage in Australia has been a long, complicated, difficult battle and it's still NOT over yet.

I think this article explains things clearly.

The fundamental change is simple enough: removing the declaration, inserted in 2004 under John Howard, that marriage in Australia is the union of "a man and a woman" (although, as just one indicator of how bitter this fight could be, some conservatives want to retain that definition and add a separate clause stating marriage can also be the union of "two people").

The fact that the national postal survey came in so positive, with more than 60% in support, is a huge bonus. That should be celebrated far and wide. But there's still more work to do.

You can read it all in detail here. 

Bad Boy Billionaire Series by Ryan Field

I've been working hard, in between my regular works in progress, to release all of my previous Ravenous Romance titles. So here are the books from the Bad Boy Billionaire series, with links to Smashwords.

They'll be up on Amazon soon, too. I liked writing these books, and I think a lot of them got lost when the publisher started to pull back on romance books in general. I'm just glad all the rights were reverted to me. Ravenous Romance was very easy to work with in that sense and we all parted friends. One of my favorite characters of all time is in The Vegas Shark. I love writing him so much I never forgot him.

Bad Boy Billionaires: The Ivy Rake -
Bad Boy Billionaires: Wall Street Shark -
Bad Boy Billionaires: Cowboy in Love -
Bad Boy Billionaires: The Actor Learning to Love  -

Bad Boy Billionaires Series -

The Revealing Photo of James Franco's Instagram

I haven't been following this one, and I never followed Franco on Instagram. In fact, I agree with Franco about Instagram.

In any event, this is all about a photo that Franco once posted on Instagram, and then took down.

“There was some photo I did. I wasn’t naked. I’m sure Rihanna has posted a bunch more risque photos. It was just the attitude of the photo. It was sweaty. My hand was in my boxers. It just looked gross.”

After he took the photo down, he closed his account for good. Some of you will love the reason why, and some of you won't get it. Not everyone is supposed to "get" everything.

You can read it all here. 

Altered Parts

Kendle's Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance

Said With Care

Tuesday, November 14, 2017

Marriage Wins In Postal Survey In Australia; The First Gay Kiss In Star Trek History; The Cute Guy With Huge Popeye Muscles

Marriage Wins In Postal Survey In Australia

This was nice to see trending on twitter tonight.

The results of the Australian survey for marriage equality have been tallied, with respondents voting overwhelmingly in support of same-sex marriage.

This still doesn't mean same sex marriage is legal in Australia. The result of this survey means Parliament has to step in next. But it sounds as though it's going to be pushed through before the end of the year. I'm going to post more about that tomorrow. 

You can check this out here. 

The First Gay Kiss In Star Trek History

Well, it's the first gay kiss at least on camera anyway. Back when Star Trek first aired, thanks to Lucille Ball at Desilu who believed in Star Trekno one dared to even think about a man kissing a man, or a woman kissing a woman. It simply wasn't done anywhere, at any time. And that's continued all the way up until now...

The latest incarnation of the Star Trek franchise features the first two canonical gay characters in Trek history (about damn time too!), Paul and Hugh, played by Anthony Rapp and Wilson Cruz. Rapp may get a bit more screen time as the ship’s engineer. But Cruz, as the ship’s doctor, gives the series an extra dose of sincerity.

There's more here. Tony's always been a huge Star Trek fan. I'm sure he'll be thrilled. 

The Cute Guy With Huge Popeye Muscles

I have been watching this sort of thing happen for most of my adult life. And I'm kind of a work out fanatic. I run, walk, or hike daily. I work out with weights a few times week. But I don't inject anything into my body, or take anything to enhance a work out. I have a nephew who is a Chiropractor and he's got one of those CrossFit franchise-like things, and I like the theory behind what they do. 

I think the huge muscle trend started in the early 90s with gay circuit boys. Nice looking guys with nice bodies all of a sudden turned into these ripped, exaggerated muscle models. It's become a sub-culture (and a cliche) in many ways. The idea seems to be that just having a lean, muscular body the normal way isn't good enough. You have to do steroids and inject things to take it another step. Unfortunately, many of them wind up looking odd, not to mention the fact that it consumes their lives. 

And it's not like we don't know what they're doing. I think everyone can spot a guy at the gym...or in online selfies...who's doing steroids or something unnatural. So they're aren't fooling anyone. And let me tell you, a lot of those guys I saw doing this in the 90s haven't aged well. In some cases, it's downright painful to see them now. It's very hard to describe. Even their faces change shape. Their heads somtimes get boxy looking.  

In any event, I don't want to digress. This guy is really taking things to the extreme.

We all have our things. This Russian ex-soldier likes to inject oil into his arms to make his biceps swell like cartoon sailor Popeye.
The now Internet-famous Kirill Tereschin has raised eyebrows since sharing footage featuring him shadowboxing with massive 24″ biceps.
Here's more. It's a shame, too, because he's really a nice looking guy. There's a photo. 

Altered Parts

Kendle's Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance

Said With Care

Monday, November 13, 2017

Shadowbanning On Social Media; Sam Smith's Sex Fantasy; Sleeping With Your Cheating Ex's Brother

Dangers of Shadowbanning On Social Media

I use social media outlets all the time because I'm a writer and I need to stay connected to people in the industry, and with readers. However, this is one of the reasons why I honestly never cared much for social media.

If you haven't heard of shadowbanning, here's an interesting article that explains just how easily we are all being manipulated on all social media outlets, especially the most popular. It raises tons of questions about free speech and the direction in which our society is moving.

Shadowbanning, otherwise known as ghost banning or stealth banning, is the name given when a user has been banned, unbeknownst to them, from an online community. From the user’s point of view, they will not have been notified about the ban, and everything will appear to be working normally for them.

You can read the rest here. The alternative to not being shadowbanned is to do and say what they want you to do and say...which is why so many people I know (including me) live in fear of that thing called "Facebook Jail." 

Sam Smith's Sex Fantasy

I have always believed that everyone...EVERYONE...has at least several sexual fantasies or kinks that no one else knows about. Or, at the very least one fantasy. Even the Pope.  I would bet money on it. 

Here's Sam Smith's fantasy...

For it is the sweetest time.

“I like to take my time,” he confirms on Australian’s The Kyle and Jackie O Show. “I love to love make…”
I think he's being honest about that one, and it's a wonderful fantasy...but I'd also bet he's got another one (or three) that no one knows about. And it should be a private thing. There's no reason anyone has to know about it. 
Sleeping With Your Cheating Ex's Brother
Here's one where they ask whether or not it's okay to sleep with your cheating ex's brother. It's actually a comment that someone left on one of those UK advice web sites. 
I’m heartbroken by it, but also infuriated and feel like he needs to be taught a lesson. I’ve been chatting with his brother who is also gay and he seems to be fairly up for a meet and muck about… He knows that we’ve split. 
You can read the replies here. My only advice would be if you do sleep with your ex's brother do it because you really like him and you're seriously interested in him, not for revenge.  
Altered Parts

Kendle's Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance

Said With Care